SD sticking her nose in about stuff we are buying for the new baby
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My partner's teen daughter told him that we are spending way too much on a pram for the new baby and then showed him picturess of cheap ones on Ebay! I was not home at the time (of course) and he thinks it's great she is showing an interest!! I think she is sticking her nose in (she isn't paying for it after all) and wonder why it would bother her so much!
Is it just me or would this peeve you as well?
Hoping this thread actually
Hoping this thread actually works, I'm not having much luck lately }:)
She's being a total bitch.
She's being a total bitch. Tell her to shut the fuck up.
I couldn't believe it. We
I couldn't believe it. We were originally looking at a pram which was $750.00 and she said to DP 'Dad, that's way too much to spend on a pram. Look at these ones of Ebay for $150.00, they meet all the standards and the wheels come off blah blah". Little does she know that the pram we are getting $1500.00, I need an ergonomically designed one due to a back problem
I've had problems with her being passive aggressive. She will ignore me and not make eye contact then tells Daddy that she isn't doing it when I tell him to deal with it. DP has her 50/50 which I am finding very difficult to deal with her being in my house, I'm used to living alone so it's like having a guest in the house all the time. She isn't comfortable here either as it's always been just her and her my partner who let her make all the decisions so life has changed dramatically for the young madam. I think we would be better off seeing each other in small doses but 50/50 has been the arrangement for the past ten years before I came along so I'm counting down the days until she moves out of home. Fortunately she stays out of my way and spends a lot of time at her friends houses.
Yep ,I get that with one of
Yep ,I get that with one of my Skids ,the youngest. Wasn't so bad when I was pregnant because he was still young and his mum wasn't too bad of, money wise. But since she's had to move to a more expensive house and her benefits have been cut ,he's obviously picked up that in fact money doesn't grow on trees and has had his mum moaning about how broke she is, so is picking up on how much we're spending on stuff. Every weekend when he comes round the first hour's spent him studying everything and pointing out what's new, especially when it comes to my sons toys. I personally think it's rude and pees me off, partner just finds it funny and starts pointing out little things like newspapers , biscuits etc...that's new just to wind him up. It's none of his business when it comes to money ,and if any of the other kids ask about money I say it's none of their business ,especially considering I work as well.
OMG, that would pee me off
OMG, that would pee me off too smithsgirl. As you said, you work so the finances are none of their business. I can't stand anyone coming to my house commenting on new things, that is so annoying. How old are these kids? And don't you love the father's who think its funny or they are showing an interest.
I think my partner's daughter's mentality is that if we spend more on the baby then she gets less but we have a baby bonus where we live so we are using the money for that (most people buy tvs would you believe!).
My DH took SD (then 23) on a
My DH took SD (then 23) on a shopping trip to buy a sleeping bag with sleeves for our daughter before she was born. I had asked DH to buy a pink one - SD advised DH to buy a BEIGE one during the shopping trip as the pink one, according to her, was too dark. Luckily DH phoned me during the shopping trip to ask my opinion and I said "no way". When I finally got the pink sleeping bag, it was the most beautiful soft dusky pink you could imagine. I'm sure SD just wanted our baby girl to have something ugly.
I know ,I wouldn't dream of
I know ,I wouldn't dream of coming into someone's house and enquire about every little thing they've bought that week. They're 10, 13, 14 and 17. What my Skids don't realise is that toys for a 2 year old costs nothing ,whereas at their age they all want iPhones ,laptops etc...so because of the price they have to wait for their birthdays and Christmas. Of course they still get little bits like makeup ,toiletries etc...which equate to the same as what my son gets. Its only their half sibling ,it's YOUR child so you can spend whatever you like on him/her.
I would be upset about that
I would be upset about that as well.
SD21 gives us crap about all the toy cars (ride on) that we bought BS19months. She facetiously said "Dad, you only bought me one 4 years ago!" DH had bought her an SUV for her 17th birthday. I wanted to say that we'll be more than happy to trade BS's for hers. This girl is the most spoiled kid I've EVER met, so she has no place saying anything we do for our sons.
I would buy an even more expensive one than what you were looking at just to piss her off!!!!
When I was pregnant with BD4,
When I was pregnant with BD4, SD was 11 and she reported everything I bought back to MIL. I didn't spend much and I got the things I knew I needed as I had a DD already. MIL then proceeded to call DH and tell him that she thinks I am spending too much money and SD thinks I have a shopping problem!! Obviously she was so jealous that the unborn baby was getting a crib and some onesies. When me and DH went away and MIL watched the kids, SD brought MIL into my room to show her everything I bought!!
FFS imjustthemaid that is
FFS imjustthemaid that is ridiculous. I would get on the phone and tell BM to mind her own business & suggest she get a life. What is wrong with people hey!
Dory I think my his daughter would have suggested to buy rubbish off Ebay and surprise me, I wouldn't put it past her. Lucky we have partners who are aware that we know what we want and won't compromise. I reminded mine afterwards that buying things for the baby and also naming our baby is strictly between us... yes, I can see his daughter sticking her nose in when it comes to the baby's name so I've told him not to tell anyone what we have decided!
Very tempted to tell her to FO but I don't see how that would solve anything.
It's a pram/stroller so it comes with a basinette and seat. It can be used from 0 to 4 years which is why I want a good one.
Other people's children ERRGH!!!
smithsgirl, every time they
smithsgirl, every time they comment on something I would remind them that you work and bought it. Maybe they need to be reminded that what's yours is nothing to do with them.
I plan on buying an investment unit to give with some family money to give to our child at 18. DP was concerned that his daughter would be jealous but I will be making it clear where the money came from.
We don't have a baby, but we
We don't have a baby, but we do have 3 dogs, one of which just had a litter of 5 pups. We spent about $100 in dog food this weekend, which will last us about 3 weeks for all 8 dogs (the pups aren't quite on solids yet, so the puppy food will hopefully last until they go to their new homes). Anyways, SO gets a text from BM, "You spent $100 on dog food! Tell Hullabaloo to go get a fucking job!"
1. Obviously SD10 let it slip that we spent $100 on dog food.
2. It's none of her business what we spend our money on, as long as CS is on time and her daughter is well taken care of in our home, she can kiss my ass.
3. I had a job, but SO likes me at home, he begged me to quit my job for a month and a half before I finally agreed. He likes a hot, homemade breakfast before work, comes home to a nice lunch at Noon and then a hot, homecooked dinner in the evenings. When he gets home from work the house is clean, laundry is done and SD10 has homework done and is happy to see her dad. Oh yeah and we have 5 puppies that we don't want to leave home alone for 8-9 hours a day!
4. We can afford for me to stay at home because I don't have the massive debt load that she does! Because I am perfectly capable of living within my means, something she hasn't been able to do her entire adult life even when they were married!
GRRRR!!!
Sorry, didn't mean to steal your thread. Yeah, it's none of SD's business what you spend your money on, whether he earned it, you earned it or you won the freaking lottery! If you want a $1500 pram, GO FOR IT GIRL! She's probably just worried about all of the ways that money could have been spent on her instead.
^^Your BM sounds jealous of
^^Your BM sounds jealous of you, big time!
Oh, I know she is! Which
Oh, I know she is! Which makes it a little easier to handle her psychotic episodes, because secretly I'm like HeHeHeHe! I have an AWESOME life and you pathetic, livin' in yo mama's basement, psycho bitch have brought all of your misery onto yourself! Mwuaaaaaaa!
YAY you! BM lives in a
YAY you! BM lives in a duplex behind SD14's middle school about 5-6 miles away from us. I can't stand seeing her at the grocery store, driving around town, whatever. But one good thing is now that she has a boyfriend, SD is shoved up HIS ass and not coming around us anymore! YAY!
BM probably has more money
BM probably has more money than I do as she might have the first dollar she has ever earned. CHEAP CHEAP CHEAP
She has a degree and a great job. Her shack of a house has had no maintenance in decades - no mortgage either. She dresses like a homeless person. She thinks it is just "wasteful" to spend any money at all.
It's her life so I don't care a bit that she chooses to live that way - but don't criticize the fact that I choose differently. I have no debt and my home and cars are paid for too. But DH and I like to dress nicely and travel. She thinks we are just horrible with money.