Just got off the phone with DH, and he's pissed. Of course SD20 as usual. So little backstory, because SD went to live with Aunt J when she was 16, Aunt J refused to take her without DH and BM1 signing over their parental rights to her. (smart woman) this went through court, MIL actually picked BM1 up and took her to court, so she couldn't no show and everything was legal and easy peasy. Aunt J did not want child support, but DH didn't feel right about not sending something, so they agreed on $150.00 per month. Aunt J just put that money in a savings account for SD. So fast forward, SD is now a Sophomore in college and DH agreed to continue to send her $150.00 a month; again because he feels it's his obligation, even though BM has NEVER felt any sort of obligation and has never paid a cent of child support.. or anything for that matter, but whatever she's a piece of garbage.

So if you all remember, SD came back to our state for the summer (thinking she was going to get a free car from us) and worked while she was here for 3 months. DH knows exactly how much money she came with, because Aunt J told him, and he knows that SD left with exactly that same amount of money, which means she blew every penny that she made while working all summer. In fact she even bragged to DH about how she spent $1,000 on her 4 sisters (not DH's), because she feels bad for them because BM1 does nothing. When SD left the beginning of August, DH sent her with $300.00 (for August and Sept) so she could use it for her down payment on her apartment with her weirdo boyfriend.

So DH just mentioned a couple of weeks ago that he hasn't sent any money since and was waiting to see if SD said anything. Sure as shit I guess she started calling a week or so ago. The first call, she was telling him that she thought her debit card got hacked and wasn't sure what she was going to do. DH didn't fall for it and said nothing about sending money. Then he got a random "I love and miss you dad" text from SD (which is hilarious in and of itself, because that is soooooo NOT how their relationship rolls) Then yesterday she calls and finally breaks down and asks about the money. Claims she really needs the money because she has strep throat and hasn't been able to work all week and she's not sure how she's going to pay the rent. WTF? Our BS7 has had strep 3 times in the past 4 years and has always gone right back to school in 24 hours. And what about her weirdo boyfriend? Can't he float her for a week or so?? Then there is also the fact that she told DH last year when she was telling him this nonsense about getting an apartment with BF, that most of her rent was covered by her student loan. Which we believe means that when she got her check from this year, that she blew it all and has nothing to cover her rent now.

DH has had it with her manipulation and lies and nonsense in general. He said he just wants to figure out what he "owes" her if he gives her the $150.00 until she's 21 and send her the lump sum and be done with her. I don't really care either way I guess. That's his deal, and I'm already done with her after the nasty message she sent me the day she hopped on her broom to go back to University state.

It's obvious she is not going to change. GBM/BM and yes, DH made her the adult she is. I tried to tell him years ago that his coddling her and letting her play him against BM and vice versa was going to come back to bite him, but nobody wanted to listen to me. I was just the evil SM. Oh well. Not MY problem, so I'm good.