Life goes on......regardless...

Entertaining this notion, is silly at best; of course you should go on your scheduled vacation.

Just do not consider taking her deep sea diving with sharks, LOL; all other water sports are perfectly fine to fully participate.

Some people have really heavy periods and can't go in the water. That is how mine are and it's a real medical condition. I dont even like to leave the house on the heaviest days . Super plus feminine products last me maybe an hour before they need to be changed. There is nothing anyone could do to get me into the water lol

Will there be sharks in the water?! If not I don't see the problem. SD can use a freaking period cup or a tampon. I would not change vacation plans because of her period. Jesus, really, the fact that you even have to know this as a SF is unreal. I never announced to the family when I was on my period when I was a teen. Geez.

Am I the only one creeped out by a stepdad posting about his SD's period:?sick: :sick:

Damn, there was no reason to include that piece of information. Even if someone asked, you could have ignored them.

Some people only use pads, so yeah planning vacations around their cycles is normal for them. If that it's possible, then they (and their daughters) simply opt of the water activities during the trip.

Vacationing separately may be the best option for you and your wife.

Separate your vacations. Take your kids and let her go on a different one with her kids.

Hahaha, tell your wife you are not moving your vacation and that she can either buy her daughter a box of tampoons or SD can not go in the water.
Sometimes life sucks.

Sounds a bit extreme to change the dates just because one person is having a period. Unfortunately she's got many, many years of menstruation and will find throughout life that there are times periods can be inconvenient and there's a good reason many women refer to them as the "curse". It doesn't sound fair to me to expect the rest of the family to be inconvenienced and go to extra expense just because of one person's menstrual cycle.

They're called tampons. Tampax makes great ones. Time for SD to learn.

Well, I come from a family of 5 sisters..none of us were reliable with that time of month. I find it curious, that your DW knows SD will be menstruating on those exact dates..unless she's on the pill.

Anyway, I would NOT cancel my vacation. No way, no how. Females have been having their cycles since forever and life didn't stop because of it. I think your DW is using it as an excuse for some reason.

Don't cancel - don't be manipulated by something this ridiculous.

As for the posters stomping on your ass for daring to mention such a thing...they'll just have to get used to the fact that your DW discusses this with you and this is why you're posting.. so vent away and don't let their comments get you down.

I am going to Hawaii this summer and it will be shark week for part of the time. My doctor said he would prescribe me birth control to stop my period while I am vacationing. I don't know if they would do that for someone so young but it's worth asking.

Barring that, it's just part of life. It has to be dealt with. Tampons, the cup, there are answers.

Besides, the worst part of a period only lasts a couple of days. If she is uncomfortable, she sits out those couple of days. Big deal.

The one thing I wouldn't let happen is to have someone's period dictate my holiday. Why it is even a consideration is beyond me.

One word- tampons.

She can participate in water activities even if she is on her period. No better time to learn how to handle this for her than the present! Surely humans do not still exist that think that us ladies don't swim etc. for one week out of each month. That is ridiculous.

"I would tell your wife the vacation is still on and sd can deal with it or you can split the vacation fund she has been saving and each use half. If she says no to that than she can start paying her fair share of the bills freeing up some of your budget so you can afford a vacation with your kids."

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Agree with this!

Gunner, I would go through this thread and delete all the comments that are off topic or otherwise don't make the grade. It's your thread, you can do it. I think you will have a better experience of trying to work out this dilemma if you can look at this thread and see at a glance advice and comments you find useful and not be bogged down with the rest.

As for the dilemma, yes, your wife is being ridiculous. The normal thing to do would be to teach the girl to cope and handle it but that is on mom, certainly not you, so that's out of your hands. Next thing mom could do is take the girl to girly things in the town, build sand castles, splash in the surf, etc. to have a good time while avoiding the full water immersion. That's it. It is not normal for women to stop the world from turning because they MAY be having their time of the month. No matter how regular normally, every woman is subject to irregularities at some point. There is no use planning every body's world around what may or may not happen with one young teen. It's part of growing up for girls, something you have to learn to handle for yourself.

So I would tell my wife "you can handle your daughter however you want, of course, but this is the week we planned and that works for us. If you can find another way to handle her I would just love to stick with our plan and us all be together at the beach. But if you can't, I don't see any other option but to take separate vacays. We will miss you."