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My ex showed up

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Last night my ex showed up wanting to "talk" in a low cut top and skin tight jeans looking good. I remembered part of the reason I married her }:) . I was smart though and didn't let her in. Instead I stood in the doorway and let her talk. I know she lost her job and her and the kids are living on a friends couch and that she is desperate right now so I was careful. She turned the conversation to bedroom talk and right as I was fighting not to give in and invite her in the cops showed up. My dd had seen her and called 911 to report her breaking my restraining order.

Just an update

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My fvpo was made permanent for a yr. My kids are good, I am doing good. My ex is in total melt down. She is living with a friend and posting all over social media how i am a bastard and an a$$hole. She is saying horrible things about my kids and how they destroyed her life. She was arrested for breaking into my house and vandalizing it. She didn't do much damage before the police got there but since i have the fvpo she was arrested for violating that also. That cost her her job so now she is unemployed.

I have a protection order

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I was granted a FVPO and my wife now ex is no longer allowed to have contact with me. Her sister called and came and got some of their things. She hasn't tried to contact me or anything. She is saying horrible things on her facebook and I know I need to not read it but I keep checking it. I guess I need the torture. How do you let go when you love someone?

Update on my life

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My ex and I sat down to mediation and redid our child support agreement in writing. It's basically what I was paying before. My attorney looked over the numbers and recommended this over court and after it was done, he told me I saved money. At least that part is settled. My wife is pissed but what are you going to do? I wasn't going to go aganist my lawyer, pay for him to represent me and then lose anyway. Then my wife would be mad at the court fees i paid.

Child support is going up

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I guess my ex didn't take to well to me letting her know the extra money was going bye bye after all. She sent me an email "giving" me the opportunity to work this out ourselves before she files. I sent it to my lawyer and while he thinks her numbers are slightly off he agrees that child support will go up and since I set precedent by giving her the extra money he thinks I will be ordered to continue to pay it. He advised me to continue paying it to avoid court fees.

Why is the advice so different from woman and men

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I have a mens advice forum I post on just like here to get advice from others experiencing what I am. The advice there is so different from men and woman. Here I get slammed, called names and told to divorce my wife (from most, I do appreciate those that give actual advice, I am listening to you) while there I am told to put my kids first by funding their life style like I have been, protect my finances and love my wife while not letting her take advantage of me. It's amazing how different the advice is.

Small update

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So I took some advice and I filed for divorce which greatly upset my wife. She scheduled counseling and asked me to join her. We've been seeing our marriage counselor twice a week since. She has backed off her demands about supporting my kids and we are working on reconnecting with each other. My kids have come back and we will be starting family counseling next week. I have not caved and paid any of my wifes bills and I will not. I need to know if she wants me or my money. I still pay the household bills and I'm buying groceries why my kids are here.

I'm done

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My wife and I had a massive blow out Wednesday night. My kids called their mom to come get them and they left because of our fighting. My wife said she is going to divorce me and take me for half of everything I have and she wants alimony. I already talked to my brothers law firm and they advised me not to leave the house and close out all joint accounts which I did. I didnt think she could get madder then she was but she is. I moved into my sons room for now and if she doesn't file for divorce next week then I will. She said many hurtful things I don't think I can look past.

She countered

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We had our weekly therapy session last night and my wife gave her counter.
*No extras period, no cash no checks nothing beyond child support
*She wants me to pay for half of private school for my kids and not 1 cent more
*She will file for child support, she filed last week
*She wants me to go back to paying her bills
*She made her own therapy appointment to help her get over the resentment (her word) of my kids

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