I was just sitting here reading all the responses to my other post and pondering the question that was posed multiple times - basically what the hell I am getting out of this relationship. Then SO calls me and tells me about how skid got suspended again yesterday. He got suspended for a day from school awhile back and now he's suspended for TWO days from whatever daycare program he's in right now since school is on break. He's 7. This time he hit another kid in the chest. It was determined that the kid didn't hit him first and he even admitted he did it for "no good reason."

SO basically says he doesn't think it's that big of a deal, not big enough to be suspended for two days. He said the same thing when the kid got suspended earlier, for hitting another kid. I was appalled the first time, I mean he is SEVEN and getting suspended. He is HITTING kids and not listening to adults.

I was getting pissed on the phone but I managed to calmly tell SO that I feel concerned for the future when I hear his LACK of concern about all this. We had a decent, calm conversation about it (amazing since he normally gets super defensive and pissed). As usual though, some of the stuff that comes out of his mouth I'm just like, WHAT?

The person who used to get super defensive about me comparing children to dogs, told me, "Look your situation with your dog. She doesn't like other dogs, she is a liability if she ever gets loose, and what have you done about it? You don't take her to obedience classes. You don't work with her on the issue. I talk to skid about his behavior, have taken him to a counselor, etc."

WHAT???

First off, my dog is LEASH aggressive (big difference) because I have always walked her on a regular basis and we have had to deal with so many loose dogs coming up and starting stuff with HER. It was something that developed over years. Then earlier this year she was BRUTALLY attacked by not one but TWO dogs, which obviously has not helped the problem. But I don't let her run loose or approach other dogs. I don't take her to dog parks and put her in situations that are overwhelming. The only issues I've had with her are from irresponsible people not controlling THEIR dogs.

And not for nothing, but... she's a DOG. I mean WTF??? I'm not supposed to be grooming her to eventually leave the nest and be a productive adult who can get along with others. She's my baby and all, but she's a DOG you idiot!!!

She's not a HUMAN CHILD who goes to school, gets up during class, is disruptive, can't shut up, doesn't give a damn about any consequence (because they are normally short-lived or forgotten by the parents) and has been hitting/biting other kids since he was 2.

He's been making excuses for this kid since the beginning, and of course now he is 7 and nothing is better. Luckily he didn't go off on me this time for "being selfish" and "always immediately thinking of how everything affects you" - which is true, I do that. It's hard not to, though. My life would be COMPLETELY different if we weren't together. And it was, while we were apart. Somehow I ended up back in the middle of all this and I do keep asking myself why. While we were apart I wasn't lonely, handled a LOT of difficult things on my own, even he points out that he doesn't understand why I'm with him because I don't need his help, money, or attention (I prefer and need a LOT of alone time). So to answer the questions from my last post, I really don't know.