Well I didn't really follow all of your advise but we did work out things with ss20. He moved into our shed. It's insulated and has power and we installed lights and a heater and rented a honey bucket for him for during the night b/c I refused to have him peeing in my yard. We moved our older hide-a-bed out there and he has hung a wool blanket over the door for extra warmth. He is allowed 3 showers a week and 2 loads of laundry. He needs to fend for himself for b'fast and lunch but can join us for our family supper meal. We lock the house at night (he used to have a bad habit of cooking at night and binge eating and right now we cannot afford that kind of food). The shed is inside our 8 foot fence and gated yard and the gate is locked at night also so he cannot have friends over. We have an alarm on the gate. DH set very firm rules and has ss20 doing things around the house like cleaning the gutters, helping with removing some trees we need taken down, etc. He is all signed up for Job Corps and it's a matter of 2-4 weeks before he gets shipped out to somewhere in the mid west!!!!!

So we'll see how long he abides by DH's strict "lock down" and we keep our sanity as parents. lol

PS, we also had ss20 buy our bedroom door a new locking knob out of his meager money to press home the point that he is the person we are keeping out of our room and we still have trust issues with him and he is still on "double probation" with us.

As much as I fought having to have him move back here, I am impressed with how DH is really busting this kids' a&& with discipline and lock down and alarms etc, but made the shed very warm and acceptable for a person to live in safely. DH really stepped up this time and I think a lot of that has to so with the fact that DH is not sick with cancer anymore.