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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Fri, 09/06/2013 - 9:45pm

Its past 10 on a Friday night and guess who gets a call?
SO Does...and its BM...wondering where her CS is, its the beginning of the month...can I have one month where you don't call? Please...
She called on her daughters cell phone.
I am trying to disengage from this B, but man is it hard to.
SO doesn't really want to participate in my queries and is usually hush hush when she calls...which is even more aggravating...I am not an interrogator but I do know her manipulative ways so I need confirmation on the reasoning behind her calls(usually I am right)....people on this site have it way worse then me...I get it.

But seriously its close to 1030 on a Friday night if it isn't an emergency then F-OFF!
Long awaited vent over!

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Submitted by Anne Boleyn on Fri, 09/06/2013 - 9:52pm

"can I have one month where you don't call? " I have said so many times, "Can I just get ONE week without her contacting him for something?" ONE WEEK. We really need to go out of the country on vacation and I bet she'd still get in touch somehow.

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 2:10pm

Wow I feel bad for you....some people really need to let go!

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 1:59pm

Yep he should pay on time, its just hard as we recently moved and everything but she does get her money in the begining of the month, its just not always the first of every month...our rent is too high but thats a whole other story.
But yes that would eliminate a call or an email.....

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Submitted by oneoffour on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 7:50am

BM here called only ONCE asking for her CS. I think she was testing the waters to see if she could get away with it. DH told her he sent his cheque into the State so she can contact them. She wasn't happy but never called us again.

Are you able to pay thru the State and tell her to piss off and call them?

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 1:57pm

SO and her have somewhat cordial relationship, when she was being an interrogator with me back in MAY I just fucking had it with her financial inquiries about my stuff...SO never told her to fuck off, when she was doing it. It honestly was really fucking rude what she did...therefore I cant stand her BS, because every time she calls its I need money...I think SO is afraid to tell her to F OFF...because she'll take him to court...oh well. I say let her...
I know if me and SO ever have a kid she'd have a heart attack.

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 1:55pm

BM pulled that BS on SO at christmas 2012, she wanted gas money to come get her support I flipped because I was driving down to give it to her every 2 weeks...she claimed she had no money, guess who got a new vehicle in December 2012? BM did. No money my ass.. Dont get me wrong SO should pay CS...I dont care if your using the money for a new vehicle...just dont lie.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 8:48am

I have no idea how CS in Canada is processed and what the options are, but if the only option is direct pay, why not send it routinely in a manner so it arrives on or just before the 1st of each month? It would save the monthly 'where is it at call' .

As to the other calls. Why are you answering and inquiring as to nature of call? Let SO answer his own calls. I assume at pushing 50 he is quite capable of speaking to his ex without need of supervision and/or protection from you. He doesn't need a 'body guard' or in this case a 'phone guard'. Let him decide for himself. If she annoys you so, why speak to her at all? He can hang up the phone if he doesn't want to talk to her. If he's not home to answer call (if it's a landline), let it go to voice mail. One less thing to trouble yourself with.

It just seems like two of the issues you're venting about and find so frustrating could be easily fixed and ease that stress off you.

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 1:52pm

They did have CS set up thru the FRO which is where the province takes the money directly from his paycheck over 10 years ago, however, he asked his ex to withdraw as he lost his job and coudnt pay CS so they took his license away...she eventually withdrew from that program.
You are absolutely right he doesnt need a phone guard, however, she ONLY calls about money....and has mentioned she wants more and his response, "I wish I could."
The reason why it isnt on time is because he gets paid every 2 weeks, we had car problems and rent due, CS is paid every month in the begining but due to our financial circumstances it is hard at times to pay her on the 1st. But yes, I have mentioned this alternative to him.

She causes me major anxiety, I am a BM as well and I have never been so nosey about my exs gf things before, like BM is...I dont care.

There are more important things to worry about I just cant stand her..

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Sat, 09/07/2013 - 2:03pm

Thanks everyone for your input I just needed to vent...someone posted on the ADULT Step Children forum...has being a SP affected your health...yes it has, my mental health....there are more important things, but when I try to talk to SO about how it stresses me out he ignores or changes the subject, so I come on here to escape.

He has a cell phone and he will usually leave the room and never talk to her infront of me....oh well...just something else I have to work on...not letting her get to me.