Dh comes in last night around 8:30 after a meeting. He comes in the living room and sits down. I can tell he has something he wants to say and am just waiting to hear the "news". He small talks a little about the meeting then says...."I talked to SS11 tonight. (This is the one that I am not allowing over to the house at the moment) I told him that I loved him and that I wanted to see him." (The child's grandfather just died so I am being as understanding as I can about this) As soon as he said this...I literally felt my stomach DROP! I said..."Did you call him or did he call you?" (Not really important but DH has tried to get in touch with SS for a month and he has not returned his father's calls...which pisses me off) DH says that he called SS11. This is our weekend to have the kids so of course I am wondering if he's coming....so I ask. DH says no I don't think he will be coming this weekend. WHEW!!! What a relief! DH said that he also told SS11 that he was VERY unhappy with his behavior the last time that he was with us and that he owed us an apology. SS said ok. I know this child and I can imagine it was a very mumbled ok just so DH would not get on his case...
I am still not ready for him to come over. I am one of those people...if I don't like you....it is very hard for me to hide it. I just don't see the point...although with SS I KNOW I am going to have to at least show indifference. The issue is this: SS8 plays sports and usually has practice or a game on Saturdays. If it's just practice...I usually stay home in the bed and SS11 will stay home with me....I am not going to be comfortable with this anymore. I don't really know how to tell DH....Hey when you take SS8 to practice, you are going to have to take SS11 with you. And then of course that is going to make SS11 a more miserable little brat towards me. But why should I have to be there alone with him??? I am not his babysitter!!!