Yeah. Next week is a school holiday and SO is working. I asked, "So, is nephew8 going to be at your house the whole time?" He was like "Yeah, why?" Does he not see that he just added another child to be responsible for? SS17 will be going away to college more than likely. SO sleeps all day to work nights, so that will leave me in the house, not even the bedroom to retreat to, all day on my days off, if i live there. SO has no problem with him being there while he sleeps because he just locks the door and sleeps, oblivious. 

So much has happened. They had a hearing and SS17 brought up allegations of abuse (beating him with electronics, force feeding until he threw up then making him eat again, making him take ice cold ahowers). The judge ruled that SS17 and BM need to go to therapy and have the therapist decide if he or she thinks SS can go back to 50/50 with BM. SS10 is back to 50/50, and they are back to their home schools. This is all temporary pending another hearing in a few months and SO's CS is unchanged, he is still paying her for SS17. In the meantime, my mother died so i have been depressed with that. 

This chick is not normal. The things she does are so bizarre. At one point, SO wasn't setting any limits so instead of cooking in her own kitchen, she would cook the kids (and sometimes SO and sometimes his parents) supper at his house when she picked them up on "her" days. Sometimes she would take the kids home, but more often than not, she would then just leave. It depended on whether or not she felt like "parenting", and she got to decide day by day.

Sometimes on her weekends she would change her mind multiple times about whether or not she would take them, coming back and forth up to 4 times per day. Take them for an hour, bring them back. Pick them up again for a few hours, bring them back. On the same day. She used his house as her "home base" for the kids because he let them all know his door was always open to his kids. She never had to follow the CO and he ended up keeping both of them 90% of the nights. For all her talk now about them being unsupervised, she would drop them off at midnight on a Saturday on "her" weekend, while he was at work, the house was empty, and she wouldn't even let him know.

All while getting $1000 per month in CS. 

She doesn't. He just leaves the doors unlocked because his son comes in off the bus and also he keeps his nephew now. 

I told him that today. Apparently, SS17 does have to stay the night at my house, as SO works nights and the judge said that if he will be unsupervised he needs to sleep at BM's. But, i do not agree to babysit the nephew, ever. I told him we just set some (albeit cowardly) boundaries with BM, but now we are expected to be his brother's beck-and-call babysitter? That is almost as unpleasant as dealing with BM. I won't do it.

And i also told him that i don't mind helping with SS10 sometimes, but to be honest, he is exhausting due to his behavior issues. He is a boundary-pusher. He has been violent in the past and has also made false CPS allegations, and i am not comfortable being his primary caregiver for long periods of time either, or really any time being one on one with him due to the allegations. Just this morning when SO woke him up for school, it was a scream-fest.

He asked me today if his life is too much. I answered yes, but why not take steps to make it livable. I've never even mentioned on here the issues with SD21 with a different BM, but she has severe emotional problems and has burned her bridges with everyone who will house her. SO can't house her due to his issues with BM2 (she put in the court papers that SD21 has a drug problem and is unsafe to be around the boys.) But, still, it's a lot. His life is extremely unstable already and taking on this nephew is where i get off the train.