I know what the siolution is - disengage. So, I have disengaged and want to talk about it. Maybe this will help someone.

Well, Since March 13th, Munchkin SD13 has been in lockdown with her mother, Toxic Troll. That very same day, her mother took her to modesto and then to walmart to get things for her new puppy. Yep, with all of Toxic Trolls instablitiy and shenanigans she hought her a gosh darned puppy. And the puppy is starting to exhibit extreme separation anxiety and beinga  wolf-dog type, this results in howling etc. No crate training because extreme scratching and whining. Pooping all over INSIDE.

How do I know this? Because I tried to keep the lines of communication open and would text every day, and she would respond. We even did a brief facetime to catch up with all the pets an us. It went really well.

Until, I mentioned that we are re-homing her fathers kitten. 2 Bengals is proving to be too much for us, and DH. My friend, who,has had them sais that you really must have just 1 at a time, they are super wild otherwise. She also knows how to train puppies, and was willing to help Munchkin.

But ever since I mentioned the rehoming she has been grey rock silent. Said very politely that she didnt want to talk to my trainer friend. I decided to disengage and just told her, "The door is always open, but I will not initiate anything going forward and I wish you well and take care..."

Ive been the one saying "hey we miss you and love you." She used to respond...So I guess this is the part where I disengage and grieve and leave the door open. I had a feeling that the separation and being holed up with Toxic Troll would distance her from us...but the reality is just hard to deal with.

Plus fears with this virus. Weve just gotten news of death in my county, and the number of "confirmed cases" is leaping up. Plus Im an "essential worker", so I dont even get to relax at home to netflix...