We are one month into BM being unemployed, and I am getting nervous about how this is going to pan out.

DH is already having to pick up and drop off the kids. With school starting next month, I'm assuming we'll be buying ALL their clothes, supplies, etc. If BM manages to keep her apartment, all the CS will be going to keeping a roof over their head and keeping the lights on.

I am standing firm on "we give BM NO MONEY". The kids can live with us (not that it is my ideal, but I'm not interested in supplementing BM's income).

She is starting to cycle in her moods, which makes sense as I'm sure she is depressed about being unemployed. However, it's starting to bleed over. She decided on Father's Day that the best time to visit her dad's grave was at 7:00 pm when we needed to drop kids off. She then got snippy with DH over text when he offered to drop the kids off at the cemetery so they could visit, too. DH just rolled his eyes. At drop off, she hemmed and hawed about being broke and fighting with her XH, and DH just said bye and left. THEN SHE CALLED HIM to actually talk about the kid stuff she needed to talk to him about (mostly summer program stuff for OSS and figuring out time for DH to have the kids over the next month), but took FOREVER to talk about it.

This is what she does when she gets depressed and lonely - draws everything out, feels the need to inform DH about every little thing, and lay on the "woe is me" act. It wouldn't be such a big deal if this weren't just a precursor to stuff falling apart.

So, please, pray BM gets a job that ACTUALLY pays her well enough that she can live somewhat comfortably so DH and I don't sink all our paychecks into paying for EVERYTHING for the kids AND so they don't have to move in with us.