Need advise, please
:sick: Just got home dw is sick , ss is once again , in charge of the big screen, in the living room, still havnt said anything to wife, want to make sure, she is ok, the Vikings, Packers, tonight, I am watching that game , on the big screen, am I a whimp just for needing advise on how to approach this? the last time something like this happened, we got into it, I noticed ss is more and more wanting to control tv in living room, after all he lives here to, how should I handle this without making the evening news?
- Step mad's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Let him know now that the
Let him know now that the game comes on at such and such time, and you're taking control of the TV then. He has a TV in his room, right? He can go watch whatever he wants there.
This is exactly why I'd prefer not to have a TV in my living room. For the first couple of months in this house, I didn't put one down there. It was heaven! No skid sprawled out on the couch with the TV blaring 24/7. Sadly, SO moved it down there when his father came to visit for the week, and now we're stuck with it.
Green Bay Packers
Green Bay Packers Tickets
Excellent posting. Undoubtedly you are an expert when it comes to this writing. This is absolutely the first time I visited your site and to tell the truth it succeeds in making me visit here now and then.
Yuck I hate the battle over
Yuck I hate the battle over the tv's. My SD15 lives with me and I hate it when she watches tv in my living room. The kids have their own living room downstairs but she comes upstairs and puts her man feet all over my furniture and hogs the damn tv. I can see this tv from the kitchen so my excuse is that I want to watch my show while I cook. Then I pretend I have something to cook and when she goes downstairs I run into the living room. I am a wimp and I do not like confrontation!
Can you make the other tv more appealing to him somehow?
You would think he does pay
You would think he does pay the bill, but it turns out, I did what some of you seggested, I dicided ifit means arguement,so be it, turns out he says "yea I want to see Arron Rodgers play", turned out to be no big deal, better to e prepared aye?
make a schedule. let him
make a schedule. let him have it after school until say 5 as long as homework is done and then it is adult choices from then on.
As far as today does try including him in on the game. How old is he? would he want to help make bad for you game snacks? If that approach doesnt work say ok you can have it until ___ time then it is the game time. Or ask about homework.
How understanding is your
How understanding is your wife towards football? I have learned my lessons with DH watching football. I am not allowed to make fun of him screaming and yelling at the tv, I do not talk while the game is on (only during commercials and theres alot)I do not comment on the players or ask stupid questions because I really have no clue about any of it. Im still stuck on the spread and how its figured out and who exactly these people are that make it up!!
So what I am getting at is I would never in a million years let any of the kids, his, mine or ours take the big screen on football day/night. She has to know this. I know you said she was sick but she should really kick his ass out of the living room!
I'm with ThatGirl. Make the
I'm with ThatGirl. Make the announcement, then walk away and don't engage in debate, period. Then when it's game time, follow through by announcing it's game time and he's welcome to watch if he'd like. He who is responsible for the roost, rules the roost. It was that way when we grew up, it'll be that way when they raise kids themselves. You're not being unreasonable. It sounds as if he gets time to watch his shows on the big screen. Assertive certainty is what you must exude. I understand he lives there, but does he pull his weight equally around the house? Does he pay the bills? What did he do for mom seeing that she is sick? Don't feel guilty for wanting to watch your game on the big screen.
Have him watch the game with
Have him watch the game with you or tell him to use another TV.
I find with kids that the
I find with kids that the best approach is usually to give them lots of warning and be very casual about it.
Something like "Hey, the football game come on at ??:00, you can watch what you want now but then I'm going to watch that"
I used to fight the TV battle
I used to fight the TV battle with SD18, and it was just no contest (although DH and SD18 thought it should be). The only time I get to have the TV for what I want to watch is at 9 pm after my two bios are in bed. SD18 inevitably would camp out on the couch with the remote. At first I would politely ask for it, but that always brought about an argument in which SD18 tried to act like my equal. I stood firm, she would throw the remote and pout off to daddy, he would grill me as to why I had taken the remote, yadda yadda yadda. It got to the point where I would just walk into the living room at 9 pm and hold out my hand and SD18 would throw the remote and stalk out of the room.
DH decided to confront me on it. No contest. I am the adult here, not her. I pay the bills here (more than 50%), not her. I will watch what I want to watch on my TV for one hour in the evening. End of story. There is another TV downstairs, SD18 was just watching previously recorded shows she could watch during the 3 plus hours after school before any adult got home.
Your house, your TV. SS can watch what you want to watch or go do something else.
I just go to SS or SD and say
I just go to SS or SD and say "give me the remote" ....and take it, and change the channel. Usually their watching something stupid like 16 and pregnant or MTV, which I don't want them watching anyway -- they copy the drama. Sigh.
For me its a non-issue. We pay the bill -- we control the tv. If there is something special they want to watch and they call "dibs" and nothing else is on that I want to see, then they can have it. Otherwise, its mine or hubbys. I got tired of trying about 6-8 months ago, so my niceties went out the window with that I guess If they don't like it, they can move out
Since Christmas we have moved
Since Christmas we have moved to Sacramento and now we get to enjoy amazing foot massages every time we train into SF - lucky us!! Last Saturday was our most recent visit - as previously stated there is only on therapist to avoid (speak up if you are not happy and ask for someone else if this happens). I can't wait for my next visit.Reflexology London