BM invited on vacation with In-Laws AGAIN
I just found out BM was invited to go on vacation with SO's parents and his family this weekend. They always do this, and then they pretend it was because we "weren't available." The truth is that they wait until they know we have other unbreakable work plans and then they "invite" us.
I am so angry and hurt. My SO's mom and dad are both obsessed with getting BM and my SO back together, and BM is right there with them. This hurts my feelings so much, though I try not to let it affect me. They act like I'm temporary and shouldn't even be around. When we're at a (now rare) family gathering, they all give me the stinkeye and act cold like they think I'm shameful. One person who married into the family years ago has always been nice to me. I am very grateful for that.
She's taking the kids, and they're going to have some family time and talk about the good old days. Also they're going to talk about what terrible parents we are to SD. I hate it.
Not one person in this situation stepped up and was capable of being honest. BM is not mature enough to say, "No, I have a life and can't hang out with my ex-in-laws all the time." She's incredibly pathetic and totally hung up on my SO. Makes me sick. And this woman supposedly has a BOYFRIEND!
The most infuriating part is when his parents say, "We DID invite you! You were going out of town and couldn't come!" They don't "invite" us until BM tells them we're going out of town for the weekend. It's such bullshit. And I wish SO would stand up for us and tell them what a crock this is. Instead he says, "Ok," or something similar to help ease their sense of guilt over their deplorable behavior. I don't want to have anything to do with these people anymore. At first, they pretended to be welcoming and loving toward me. Now I know that was just hypocrisy.
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I would be upset also. I am
I would be upset also.
I am pretty sure our BM keeps in touch via emails with some of DH's 6 sisters and it bothers me, even though she does not bad mounth us, at least I don't think so. I would rather those ties be cut, but I am glad it does not go as far as that!!
Thanks for your kind words.
Thanks for your kind words. SO called BM and left her a message talking about how un-cool it all was. He told her that we are "summarily uninvited" and that that sucks, because I am his "family now." I am proud of him for that. No response from her yet.
You are right; they have chosen BM over their own son. They would rather see her than him. That's the worst part. And when confronted, they backpeddle. As far as I'm concerned, BM and In-Laws deserve each other. I still get upset about this... very upset. But I would rather not give people who don't care about me the time of day, and spend my time and effort on people who truly love me.