why do I even bother to be nice!!!
so we get SS6 for 2 more weeks this summer...DH and I discussed it on what weeks are good for BOTH of us and that is the weeks we are getting him. BM (being the bitch she is) told DH that he was still getting the monster on the last weekend of August (which is HER SCHEDULED WEEKEND)and I have a HUGE problem with that and so does DH. Reason we have a problem with it is the 1. I am due to have our daughter at the end of August (due date is 28Th have scheduled c-section for the 26Th but it is possible that I can go into labor at anytime and I am sure any woman that has had a child knows that.) 2. BM does this so she can have weekends away from him that she doesn't want him and flips our schedule every time!(ex. we are getting him August 5Th (first day of our scheduled weekend) until August 14Th (last day before school starts and what would be her scheduled weekend) so she is going to keep him weekend of 19-21st (our scheduled weekend) and as she put it "you will have him 26-28Th". DH said since that is her weekend and we get him the labor day weekend she is trying to mess up the schedule again like she did last year and took half of his holidays from him because, as she puts it... "well since y'all had him 2 weekends in a row i am keeping him 2 weekends in a row." DH has been at the hospital for the duration of ALL his children being born and is not going to miss HIS 1 and only daughters birth because BM wants to go out drinking with friends. BM knows that I am pregnant and knows when I am due so we know she is doing this on purpose. DH also told her "since I am going to have him the first 2 weekends in August you take him the last 2 so we both still get our 2 weekends with him and the scheduled time doesn't get messed up."
you might be wondering where does this title come in to play? well here it is...since January I personally have watched SS6 for her when she had no one to do it, Kept him an extra day ( most recent example: memorial day weekend we had him Friday to Tuesday and he was supposed to go back Monday at 6) because she was "sick", and have even woke my 1yr old son up at 6am for her to drop SS6 off when the school was closed due to weather. SO... I don't think it is too much to ask if she could keep him the last 2 weekends in August (being that he has school anyway and we don't want to have to pass him off to people like she does since we actually like to spend our time WITH him and not with our friends while our mother or god knows who watches him til BM gets home) being that I have done all that for her without being like "no sorry your kid not mine better figure out something cause I am not getting him." It wouldn't be so bad if my DH didn't work so much that I am usually by myself with the kids. If i just so happen to go into labor all I have to do is make one call because my mother also works with my husband so 2 birds one stone my BS1 gets picked up and DH and I go to hospital. SS6 however will not stay with my mom so we wouldn't have time to make 20 calls to see who could get him that he would actually stay with. Which is why I think it totally makes sense that BM keeps SS6 the last two weekends. (if the shoe was on the other foot I would have done it for her) I just don't get how you cant repay my kindness to you with kindness to me. what would you do in this situation? :? (DH is going to tell her he cant keep him the weekend she is wanting us to because it is her scheduled weekend per CO and if she has plans that don't involve him then she needs to find a sitter)
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I just wouldnt get ss6
I just wouldnt get ss6 whatever weekend she says you are "supposed" to have him. BM does this as well and dh mostly lets her. She has two other baby daddies so she tries to make sure all kids are gone at the same time-so that is OUR schedule now-whatever her schedule with the other baby daddies is. I have told my dh that our schedule actually is our state parenting guidelines and not whatever is most convenenient for bm-but he doesnt feel like it is a battle worth fighting (although it totally screwed up Memorial weekend for us). He has at times refused to take the visit if we have plans-but he just loses time-she says she will let him have ss on the next weekend (how generous to allow this considering it actually was our scheduled weekend) but that she cannot due any transportation.
I think your dh just needs to say no-it's not my weekend and my wife's c-section is sceduled that weekend. Sorry. I dont even care if it was your scheduled weekend-I still would have told her that you werent getting him to due to the birth of your child.
Glad to know I am not the
Glad to know I am not the only one that goes through that. DH and I looked at CO and we have made a calendar with what days we get him and what days we don't for the next 2 years! I also take the liberty to put the "extra" time on there (if she takes him to court for anything I am pretty sure that could be used to prove how she messes up our visitation and all the times she is supposed to have him and doesn't). I told DH point blank "call me selfish if u want but if u get SS6 then u better plan on him staying somewhere else ALL WEEKEND because I am not watching him at all." DH said I didn't have anything to worry about because he is not getting him.