I was beginning to go through withdrawls I think. I've had some MAJOR issues and of course, no one to talk to! We got our puppy about 2 weeks ago and he's terrific, such a good little boy. But SD on the other hand is still an unholy terror! She's been abusing the pup every chance she gets. She steals all his toys and hides them, chokes him, throws him and I am pretty sure she hurt his leg the other day because he won't walk on it at all today. (I am taking him to the vet today) I'm thinking this happened when I caught her HANGING him UPSIDE DOWN by his rear legs... SHe's no longer allowed near him or his things. I told DH and SD that if this crap continues she will no longer be allowed in our house, period. DH agreed.
This past Thursday when she was over she kept taking the pup's toys and hiding them and taking his food away when he was eating. Less to say I FREAKED OUT. I have never screamed at SD, I have raised my voice, but never screamed. The second I saw her taking his food away, I let her have it. I'd had enough, I screamed at her for about a good 5-6 minutes telling her that she is a naughty little girl and mean, rude and ungrateful. I told her she doesn't deserve even half of the things we have given her and all she ever does is want more. Etc... DH supported me the whole time. SD spent the rest of the afternoon in her room, alone. I told DH that this puppy is like MY CHILD and that if ANYONE treats him badly they will see my bad side and that's what SD had provoked. I told him I understand that she is his daughter and that regardless of anything that happens between she and I that he will always want to see her. But I told him if she can't get herself in check or BM doesn't agree to put her in therapy for her issues, she will not be allowed back in this house. He agreed, although somewhat reluctantly.
What if the puppy had been a newborn? She could've killed it. SD shouldn't been left alone with anything living (pets, children, etc) and we, unfortunately, learned that the hard way.

There. That's off my chest. I finally feel like I can breathe again. I'm beginning to think I have an unhealthy attachment to this place and you people...LoL.