So, last week I had it out with my DH. I told him how I just don't give a rat's ass about his son and daughter any more. I said, "You tell me all about what they're doing and how it pisses you off and then ask for advice but when I give my honest opinion, you start defending them. SO, I'm keeping my mouth shut. How you raise you're kids is NONE of my business. They don't give a shit about me, so I'm no longer engaging in a parenting role for them, after all I'm just the step mom."

I also told him to stop expecting my children to be perfect while his are total screw ups. "You're just a step dad so butt out. And, if you want someone to chip in and help around here, why don't you volunteer yourself. Start with leading by example and pitch in. You say it's awkward to live in the house that me and my kids shared before you came along and you feel like an outsider? Well, how about you friggin contribute like you're NOT an outsider and see how soon you feel like one of us?"

I told him he better start treating me like he did when we were dating before he pushes me completely away from him.

He's been wonderful....let's hope it lasts.