we went to the school!!
Even the teachers do not want SS14 to come back, this came up while we were dealing with SS12! SS12 is not stupid but he is very lazy and is now failing, They wanted to put him in special ED, no way!! he can pull up his boots and do his work or fail, he is not getting special treatment because he is lazy! So now the teachers are working with my program.. he is getting extra homework every night, and a once a week project and has to stay afer school one night a week for extra work! I wonder how long until he throws another screaming fit about us not being fair?!!! I am actually looking forward to it, because he always ises the "I'm going to live with MOM" card every time he doesn't get his way, and I'll be ready for it with "go ahead and leave". I am just so tired and frustrated with these 2 brats I just want them gone, I have spent all day cleaning the mess that they made and I am still not done, after 6 loads of dishes and 7 loads of laundry!!( they let the dogs in the house to sleep on my clean laundry!!) I am just soo angry with them, I am going to tell them off next time they start something no more holding my tounge being afraid to scar them emotionally, because I can only take so many emotional beatings, and I am not going to take anymore!!!
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SS12 has been tested and is
SS12 has been tested and is very bright and yes he has difficulty reading but can do it, his problem is because it's hard I wont do it and now he is further behind as he has manipulated the teachers into doing the work for him. SS can do the work but refuses because he thinks he is dumb, we have never called him dumb,stupid or anything like that, if he does his work the results speak for themselves, he does very well. this kid just needs to be pushed or he will just fall further and further behind. This is in his best interest. In our school system the government allocates $3500 for each child, and $12000 for each child in special ED, the school puts kids in these programs for more funding!
vgill, stop holding it in
vgill, stop holding it in and scream at them when they do wrong. I scream at anyone under this household if they are doing something i dont like. I dont care if its the POPE!!! trust me i'll tell them off. Just because they are STepkids doesn't not mean they get special treatment or any privaleges above any other human beingin the house. Scream and if the older one gets physical , phone the police and have him removed. If the younger one pulls teh i'll live with mommy, tell him go....live there if you feel its better.
My sd pulls the card ' i wont speak to you again and i'm not coming to your house again cards...and my dh says: no problem, you do that, have a nice life. Guess what vgill, my husband doens't phone or contact for a few weeks...seen it happen tons of times. Few times he's cracked..only human, he'll email her...but for the most part i tell him, i know you love her but don't give her power by bending. When she threatens you like this, you drop her like a rock and let her come to you. This is a power game you cannot lose.
You have alot on your shoulders vgill. You need to place the blame squarely on the shoulders and tell them off. You've already begun to exclude them based on their behaviour...which is a start..
I remember reading another poster wrote you, not to ever leave them in your house alone again. They are to go out at every time with dad...i agree to this. Since they destroyed the place on purpose i would stick them in something that makes them miserable. Go to dad's work and stay there.
I will not be spending time
I will not be spending time alone with them anymore if I can help it and I now have playdates arranged for my children the weekends they are both here, so I don't have to spend anytime around them, sounds cruel but I can only take so much hatred and anger directed at me!