I am so tired of raiseing her kids and then have her bad mouth me to them and have her tell them they don't have to listen to me I am not their mother.... Neither is she.. she told DH to take those F-ing little bastards when you go 10 years ago because she was too busy spreading her legs for every guy in the county, and she was too selfish to take the time to be a MOM and now she thinks she is super MOM...WTF!!!! I am too busy raising my own 4 children to deal with her 2 disrespectful boys who are teaching my children bad bbehavior!!! How do I get her to step up and be a real mother to these boys?? They feel confused after seeing how I relate to my children and how I try to be a good mother to them, and then I think they want to know that their MOther loves them they way I love my babies!! I think that is part of the reason they rebel soo much. I also think her jelousy about how the boys really feel about me (I know that they love me wether they admit it or not) Mkes her try to get them to hate and disrespect me more, in the hopes that they will love her!! I don't know... I just feel so lost and helpless, like I don't have a say in my own life anymore!!