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Submitted by tonieye11 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 8:55am

After over 7 years of trying SO, exSO, and I have decided to call it quits. I spent more time lurking and responding than posting since I my former SKs were not that bad, it was their parents that have always been the problem. Either way since I am no longer a SP, I do not feel as if I could give any insightful advice. I thank all you ladies for your advice, whether direct or me learning from example, thought out my time here and I wish you all the best.

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Acratopotes's picture

Submitted by Acratopotes on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 9:05am

No need to leave, we still need you to help others who's not sure if it's worth it all.

Good luck with your new adventures

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Submitted by tonieye11 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 9:41am

I will try to keep the story short.

When I got hired at my job, as a scientist, I was hired based on experience and natural talent. I didn't possess the required educational component for the position, but since I had experience in all other ways they decided to fund the rest of educational part since I was already 3/4 finished with school. Before this, when I had DS I took 3 years off from school. When I went back, since it was required for my job, I only had 2 years to finish the degree. That ends in December.

exSO has no custody or child support arrangement for any of his kids. 3 weeks ago SS spent the weekend with us. All went well and I spoke with exSO about having SS come over on a regular bases, every other week end. My only condition to this was having the ability to move weekend if something important should arise. Last week ex SO asked about SS coming over. I responded sure if you can pick him up on Saturday instead of Friday because I have a term paper (30% of my grade) due Friday and I am really struggling with it. Due to his protest of the Saturday request I compromised and it was modified to Friday at 8pm. exSO through a hissy fit stays out all night on Friday, completely unreachable. Oh and by the way before this he lost his job so I'd be the one paying for shelter, electric, water, food, gas, entertainment, etc.

My issues are: 1. A practically married man staying out all night, God know where, completely unreachable. Obviously he has no respect for me. And 2. I asked you for a couple of hours undisturbed in my own home to work on something that could effect our livelihood and he could not compromise just based on what he wanted.

I can't. I'm sorry. I throw in the towel.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 9:23am

I agree with Heaven and the others who say that your input is certainly welcome and obviously relevant to our situations.

Just because you no longer function as a step parent doesn't mean you have nothing to add to the conversation.

Stay and hang out with us Smile

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Submitted by tonieye11 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:33pm

Thank you ladies for all the support! I will hang around but you probably wont hear from me as often. I have a fixer upper that won't fix itself and I am determined that if I no longer have help, I'll just fix it up myself (within reasonable limits).

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 1:06pm

Hey, tonieye11, stop in about post OT about that fixer-upper!! I need to do some fixing up on my old house so I can sell it. DH doesn't have time and I cannot afford to pay someone to help. Love to hear ideas!