Last night, boyfriends 12 yr old son tells me 'what are YOU looking at?' in a very snotty tone. I looked at BF and said, you need to say something to him...that is completely disrespectful. BF says nothing to him (later says he didn't hear it). I told him "this is exactly what I keep telling you that I am tired of and not going to put up with any longer. If you can't set that kid straight then you and he need to pack your stuff and find somewhere else to live because I can't take his smartass attitude any longer.". Of course, a big argument ensues as BF makes one excuse after another for his son. Later, he tells me he didn't hear him say it but he spoke to him about it. Yeah, right. Maybe he spoke to him and maybe he didn't. The fact remains that he gives him the power when he doesn't address it right there in front of me. I feel like he is allowing the kid to walk all over me and the kid KNOWS it.

Today he acted like, no big deal, it'll all blow over (again). He made excuses...it's his 12/13 yr attitude, he has ADHD,...yeah, whatever! No, it's also BF's problem because he allows his son to disrespect me. I told him, that's fine but he will no longer do it in my home, they can find someplace to live and HE can deal with him. I've had enough...I'm done...and I haven't even shed a tear. I'm sure I will at some point, because I do love my boyfriend, but this is very unhealthy for me and I can't deal with the stress of it any longer. 5 more years (until the kid is out of school) is TOO long to put up with the crap I've dealt with. BF lets the kid have WAY too much freedom and enforces too few rules. I've got to get away from this!

On one hand, I AM sad. On the other hand, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I'll just be glad when they have moved so I can have PEACE again in my own home. This site has given me the strength to see that the crap I'm dealing with is NOT normal and it's time to get away from it.