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Submitted by the_stepmonster on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 9:04am

...Well, almost. Yesterday I blogged about how BM was already laying the ground work to try and switch weekends with DH. I told DH when the kids didn't come over last weekend (sleepovers and spending time with maternal grandparents) that that was her decision and we didn't get a vote, therefore when she tries to pawn them off on us this weekend, it will be a no-go. We have plans this weekend that were made based on when we are supposed to have the kids according to the schedule.

Well I almost got it right. Yesterday DH got a call from SD9. The same SD who CHOSE to go to a sleepover with her little friend rather than visit with her father. She was trying to guilt DH into picking them up this weekend since he didn't see them last weekend. DH and I had a discussion and agreed that if their mother met us halfway (she lives an hour away from us) then we would pick them up on Sunday and spend the day with them. Apparently this was not good enough for sweet sensitive little SD9 because she kept insisting that we get them on Saturday. Finally DH told her he had to work (lie) and so it would have to be Sunday. I am glad that DH stuck to his guns, but kind of wish he would have told it like it was (I have plans on Saturday, just like you had plans last Saturday SD9). That's probably asking too much.

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Submitted by the_stepmonster on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 9:19am

We are really at the mercy of their mother. DH was fine with SD9 having a sleepover (in BM's mom's neighborhood which is an additional hour away from us) and we were supposed to have the other 2 SD's this past weekend. I am positive BM was either too lazy to make two trips or had plans in her parents' town and decided that the other kids needed to have a sleepover with her parents. Like most DH's, mine is too scared of her to tell her no ever.

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 9:10am

I have been shocked when my SO has done this. He has used the work excuse as well. Guilt still works sometimes, but not every weekend. It is gross to hear the skid use guilt to get their way.

Good for your DH.

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Submitted by Anne4 on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 9:20am

Ugh. BM had your SD9 call because it would be harder for daddy to say no to his little princess! Our BM pulls that shit all the time. DH is already said no to something when discussing it with BM but she has the princess call to ask "daddy please can I _______?" Damn manipulator...

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Submitted by the_stepmonster on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 9:35am

I honestly don't care if she has a sleepover with a little friend, but she has to learn that when she makes a choice she needs to live with the consequences. She can't have it both ways (fun with little friends one weekends, fun daddy weekend the next). She also has to realize that she is not the only child in this family (3 SD's total) and has to learn that all of our plans do not revolve around her. Next time I will be sure we have concrete plans on both the Saturday and Sunday that we don't have them. I guarantee you the ploy to have daddy pick them up on Saturday would have turned into a definite sleepover at our house.