Venting about my own SM
Ugh...
So last week my dad and SM email all of us kids & our spouses about planning a family vacation for next year.
They email us a list, we all vote and come to an agreement. Along with my vote, I told her we would be in on it as long as it was during SD10s Spring Break or Summer Vacation. Now, I don't always expect everyone to plan around us, but my siblings kids are all 2 or under, so they don't have to plan around school.
So today I get an email back from her stating they're looking at dates between late Sept.-November. Really?!?!
So I emailed her back with the dates available for us. I just no she's going to be pissed, but I don't feel right going on a "family" vacation without SD (wouldn't be a family vacation without all of us there).
As an older person I do
As an older person I do understand where she is coming from. Travel is so much cheaper and easier during those months.
Most vacation destinations are just a zoo during school break times. The others obviously doesn't feel it necessary for your SD to be present or assume that she can get out of school. (back in the day it was pretty easy to be gone for a week).
Maybe your family just can't go. I would not be happy about spending hundreds and hundreds of dollars to go during an insanely busy season for someone's stepchild. Sorry but I'm being honest.
Thanks for the advice
Thanks for the advice guys.
Yes SD is the only one that is school aged.
Yeah, I understand travel is a lot cheaper then.
Yeah my SM assumed she could get out of school and fly down there to meet us. SD's BM put a cabosh to that (plus she sad there would be no way she'd be missing school).
So I emailed my SM and she would try to work something out, and they would look into other dates, but couldn't guarantee anything.
I adore SD, and we went on vacation this summer and had I blast. I know she would love where we're planning on going. I just don't feel right going without her.
I think you've made your
I think you've made your available dates known, and that's all you can do. If they can't accomodate your schedule, then they can have their family vacation without you and yours. You can plan your own trip during a time that works for you.
My oldest sister does this exact same thing every year. She home schools her kids, so they always take vacations during off-periods when most kids are in school. She always get huffy and puffy when we all can't come meet her at the beach for a week in September. Oh well!