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I Don't Want To Play Anymore

the_stepmonster's picture

SD5 is a sociopath. I'm sure of it. I am completely fine with SD10 and SD12. They are great kids and only get on my nerves slightly these days. But I think I am ready to take my baby and split over SD5. I've blogged before about how I don't trust her around the baby. DH insists that she share a room with BS3-months since there are 3 girls in one bedroom and only the baby in his nursery. I told him that if she went 2 months without incident than I would think about it.

Last night she pissed her pants. This isn't exactly an "incident" that would prevent her from sharing a room with the baby except that she did it for attention. How do I know? because she literally sat on the couch about 5 ft from the bathroom and just flat out peed on herself. And when she was done just came and showed us, not even embarrassed that she is about to be 6 years old and starting school. So whatever, accidents happen, right?

This morning I am making breakfast for this herd of people in my house and realize the dog is missing. I have a 4 year old beagle. She is the friendliest dog in the world and even when SD5 chokes her by pulling on her collar and tries to ride her she never bites or even growls. I hear the dog crying from somewhere in the house and it turns out SD5 locked the dog in the bedroom. Like literally locked the door and we had to find the master key to get her out. This is the second time she has done this. I am tired of resetting this 2 month trial period and want to give her back. I don't want to live in constant fear she is going to do something to my dog or even the baby. Even DH has started to notice when she does this crap and before he would just brush over it. Then of course DH tells her she cannot be locking the dog in the closet and that it's mean and she starts crying because he "hurt her feelings." I have a 5 year old nephew so I expect some misbehavior with just the age but not mistreatment of animals. I've already had to stand by while DH hugged her because she cried when he got mad at her for hitting the baby on the head. She completely knows better and I feel she is just mean for the sake of being mean.

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TwoPlusOne's picture

My biodaughter (age 6) always whines that I "hurt her feelings" when I discipline her. That's really common with that age group. They really aren't good at talking about their emotions.

I agree that she's jealous and probably needs some more reassurance that she's still loved lots and lots and the baby and dog haven't replaced her.

Bex_S's picture

It is bad behaviour, no doubt. But she's only 5 and acting out because there's a new baby. Kids that age are still yet to get to the stage where they have a concept of other's needs and will naturally still be inherently selfish. I know everything in your body and mind will be telling you to protect your child from SD (hell I feel the same with my SD8), but that's the worst thing to do and will only build SD's resentment further. Maybe you can involve her in some way so she can bond with the baby? Make the extra effort to show her that she will still get plenty of love and attention.