I guess you can say I am preparing for the worst. The atty said we should go the adoption route first - then if she contests we can go the termination route. Worst case scenario - she has to pay child support - hopefully adhere to drug testing and supervised visitation. Best case - she would sign the consent realizing she isn't a part of SS's life.

If you have referenced any websites dealing with PAS, Personality disorders, custody, etc (you know, the stuff we always talk about on here) I would love to have them. You can either post them here or pm me and I will give you my email if you prefer.

Thanks so much - I want to educate myself on these matters and I know there is alot of info out there so I am trying to compile it into one place.

What should we do? I have two Skids, 7 and 3 that live out of state. We have them this week - first time since January and not again until May. The 7 yo has gained 18 pounds since last visit. She is in a 12/14 now and my 7 yo (two weeks apart) is in a 6. The 3 yo has developed a bad stuttering problem. THey came with bruises inside their legs, the BM tells us they are depressed, etc. She works crazy shifts as a nurse assistant and goes out of town or to the bars every weekend. How should we confront this situaiton?

I met my husband almost four months after his EW moved 8 hours away yet she believes that I am the reason they aren't together. It went from emails from her asking who I was (pic on myspace) and that she is happy for us to they were cheating first, to I caught them in bed together. SHe has posted that I am the reason the marriage ended. I have only met her three times of which she only spoke to me the first one. SHe wont look at me much less acknowledge me in person yet she mentions me in emails and sends me emails of praise.