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Skid listens to me better than his own father and trying to find a solution for a money situation.

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Submitted by tankh21 on Fri, 03/02/2018 - 7:34am

DH picked up the skids last night. It's funny how he has to tell YSS to go to bed 4 times before he listens however, last night around 9:30 pm I go take the dogs outside before I go to sleep and YSS is sitting in the living room with the with the TV blasting. I tell him it's a school night and you know the rules go to bed. I come back in and TV is off and and YSS is in his room. So do you think that he just knows that DH will let him get away with stuff and let him to whatever he wants and I won't?

Trying something different....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Wed, 02/28/2018 - 8:51am

BM continues to bother my DH every other week just because she is having a bad day and wants someone to take it out on I think. Telling him how to talk to her, trying to tell him what to do while the skids are at our house. I guess me complaining over and over about it doesn't do anything but I always feel better after I tell my DH how I feel about it.

This happened yesterday......

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Submitted by tankh21 on Fri, 02/23/2018 - 7:06am

Ok this actually happened yesterday it's not about the skids this time it's about my marriage. Sorry it's off the topic but I am thinking that it's getting to the point where maybe I really should go. So yesterday I went to lunch with two co-workers. DH called me once and I didn't answer because I was driving. Then he calls back and I answer the second time and he asks me why I didn't answer the phone the first time he called. I told him because I was driving. He said well who are you with and I told him. He then hangs up on me.

Always something.....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 02/22/2018 - 7:42am

o BM emails DH about some band concert for OSS on March 1st and it says that the performance time is 5:10 pm. Per the CO it states that DH is not supposed to pick up the skids until 6:00 pm on Thursdays. I told DH that if he wants to take off work and go to the concert to see SS perform then go ahead and go but, I wasn't going to take off work and rush around trying to get over there. So DH decides to send BM an email back stating that he will just pick up the skids at her house after the concert. Then all of the sudden BM starts bombarding DH's phone with text messages.

Haven't written in awhile....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 02/15/2018 - 7:14am

So we are supposed to talk to the skids today about bed times and the TV will go off at 10 pm on school nights no matter what. No sleeping on the couch at all. DH asked me last night why the remotes were in our room. Well skids didn't come over last Thursday night so we didn't get a chance to talk to them because DH was sick and I refused to go pick them up for him. I told him that the remotes have been in our room since last week. He said well what do we need to talk to them about? REALLY!!! So pretty much he doesn't care and just is doing it to shut me up.

DH came and talked to me....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 02/08/2018 - 6:55am

So DH came to me the other day and said that he wanted to discuss the bedtime and cooking issue and I feel a little bit better however, I am still not going to do the stuff I used to do until I see some changes. He said that skids will both be in their rooms at 10 pm. Remotes will be taken away from the living room and TV off. This is for school nights only. YSS will not be sleeping on the couch either if he does then there will be consequences for that. No cooking after 9 pm anytime. YSS will have to be supervised if he wants to cook something and he needs to ask for help.

Disengagement is hard....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Mon, 02/05/2018 - 11:02am

So far disengagement has been hard. YSS wanted to cook something at 10:00 pm last night and I told DH ummm no he can eat a snack aka lunchable or something else that doesn't require you to cook. It doesn't matter the kid can do what he wants in DH's eyes. I told him well if he makes a mess then you get to clean up the mess. DH changed his mind really quick and told YSS that it's late to go to bed. I find it sad that my DH is a lazy parent but when he has to actually do something he steps up.

Finally I am done.....

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Submitted by tankh21 on Fri, 02/02/2018 - 7:20am

So everyone that is telling me that I have a DH problem not a skid problem. You were right about that. Last night DH tells YSS to go to bed. YSS ignores him. I didn't say a word. He must have told him at least 4 times to go to bed but YSS still had the TV on blasting. Then all of the sudden I hear a door shut then open again a few minutes later. DH goes out to the kitchen and tells YSS that he doesn't want or need any drama.

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