Well, I found this site about a month ago, and thank God! I don't really have any friends that are in the same situation as me, so I am thrilled about having SOMEWHERE to turn. So I've been reading some of your blogs, and by the looks of them, tis' the season for baby mama drama...Maybe it's always the season.
A little about my situation. I am married with 2 BS's(2&6). I also have a SS11. The BM in our situation, is highly irrational and unstable. She constantly uses the child as a weapon...We used to be on good terms, howsomever I got fed up with the lies, manipulation, insanity and drama,drama,drama-etc. BM and DH are unable to be civil due to her incessant bickering and bitterness. So now, none of the adults are on speaking terms(her choice)so the poor SS serves as her messenger. I hate the fact that he is stuck in the middle of this situation. His BM and GM make him make arrangements for himself, which is not his responsibility-that's for grown ups to handle, right?
Anyway- his life has consisted of one upheavel after another. Since birth, he has had to reside in more than 20 different living situations, she's had nearly the same amount of jobs as well as male partners- I won't even get into the drugs(that's on a different Oprah)All I know is, 30 year old women should not be hanging out with teenagers who abuse drugs or letting them babysit for that matter.UGH, the past 7-8 years have been hellish for that boy as well as us. I can never understand how these women can just drag these children through their own personal hell, just to have an ounce of "control".
Of course she does the whole malevolent mother bit, and PAS is her specialty. Always threatening us never to let us see him again, oh your daddy has a new family now-they don't want you there, we have no money b/c of your father, the list goes on and you can just imagine how screwed up in the head he is!!! Instead of promoting a positive relationship w/DH-she blames him and us for all her woes. It's disgusting! Every time she is broke-quite often-she calls to complain about CS, which she gets every month!!! They were never married, so she gets no allimony-yet depends on CS for rent? We finally had to back off a little while ago, b/c it got way out of hand. That meaning we have not called SS b/c of course we have to go through the gatekeeper first. Fed up with her constant hateful everyone-owes-me attitude, we let SS know that he can call us whenever he wants, and that BM is being too rude and we will not tolerate that behavior. So he never calls. Why? "If they want to talk to you-THEY have to call" she says. Catch 22 all around. Any tips for dealing with these psychos???? After 7 years- I'm fresh out of ideas...Any input GREATLY appreciated!