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I'm a upset BM.

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I have a BS13, a BD1, SD14, and SD20. I'm 29. Yes, big age difference between me and DH. I don't mind it a bit..Actually perfer it this way.

Anyway, on to the upset part. My BS13's father lives across the country. He's in the military and has always been in and out of my BS's life. He's never a full time parent, has been two years in a roll without seeing or talking to BS. He decides when he wants to be a part of his life and I want him to be so I don't interfer. Stupid me.

Why do I dread the visits so much?

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We get SD14 pretty often. I never know when it's going to be but it usually goes on Wednesday night we get her for dinner, every weekend we keep her for one night, or if we know we have plans for the entire weekend we keep her for the entire weekend before or after.

So I knew tonight was going to be the night. But DH just confirmed that he is going to pick her up after work. My stomach feels like it's dragging the floor now. I hate this feeling. It seriously makes me want to go home, have beer, and pass out!

When is BM going to learn how to be a BM???

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Last night we get the call of doom. SD14 on the other end of the line crying about how her mom is mistreating her again. Then the BM gets on the phone with DH and goes on and on about how she can't make her listen. She can't get her to do anything she says and this is all DH's fault because he left her two years ago, and since then SD won't listen to her.

My truthful introduction

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I guess it's about time I say hello to everyone on here instead of just lurking.

I'm glad I found this site. It's nice to know I'm not the only person with these same thoughts and feelings.

It seems pretty unfair to us 2nd wives doesn't it? My truthful testimony goes like this: