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custody evaluator question

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BM cheated repeated before BF found out and it ended their marriage. BF busted BM cheating because he found sexually explict photos she took of herself and sent to numerous men she met on poker playing sites and such and they sent her back photos and videos that were also sexual in nature. BM also wrote many emails to these men with very dirty stories in them - all somewhat violet and very sexual - rated XXX and I am not a prude. We have these emails and photos and videos. Due to all this cheating, BF had to have DNA tests done before baby was born to find out if he was the father.

BM deserves what she gets

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BM wanted xmas to start at 9am and when the order came it said 9am and BM wanted to give BF baby at 1 or 2 pm. NOT happening! BM still has not answered to whether she will meet us or drop FSS1 at his grandparents house that morning. BF asked for baby for a few hours on New Years Day, which is her holiday, and she said as long as BF does the driving that it is fine. Which we have no problem with driving since we will be in her area anyway.

change of plans

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So BM asked in the temporary order that she always gets xmas eve and BF gets xmas day at 9am. Both attorneys sent this info to the judge for the temp order that we should get in the next day or two. Anyway, BF emailed BM on Sunday and asked that she drop FSS1 off at BF's parents house on xmas at 9am.

I have an interview...OT UPDATE

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I have an interview in the morning for a job I think I would like to have. The pay is not wonderful but in this economy who's is but it had benefits, is full-time and is local with no weekends. I had another interview last week and that job was not for me.

So please send me your good thoughts and prayers. I want this job and I am sick of being at home.

anyone ever think of this...

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BM complain about how much the kid(s) cost them. Do you think they realze how much they "save" when the kid(s) are with the other parent for parenting time? We figured we save BM at least $50 every weekend that we have baby with the cost of diapers, wipes, formula, baby food, clothes, toys, diaper cream, bath stuff, laundry, wear and tear on her carseat and baby stuff etc not including transportation to and from. We meet BM but not half way we picked a spot that is like 20 miles for her and like 35 for us. So we are even nice about not asking her to drive half-way.

court part 2

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BF went to court this past week with his lawyer in tow. BM's lawyer is a real piece of work. He told me I was on crack when I asked a reasonable question. Anywho, neither party could come to a temporary agreement so now each lawyer has to submit a proposal by Wed of this coming week and the judge will decide temporary parenting time and support. BM wants way too much money but it is what the calculator says. She won't compromise on anything. BF wants 50/50 and BM wants sole physical and legal custody.

It was a good day until...OT

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I was having a wonderful morning - slept in, had plans to do stuff around the house, etc until my boss called. He said he was stopping over at my house. I work from home. I got my walking papers today. I guess the market (I work in real estate) is so bad they cannot justify paying me anymore. Bummer. I got a week's severence pay plus my paycheck for last week plus my vacation time that I have accured. I am so clueless on what to do now. I have not been unemployed for almost 12 years. I am not even totally sure how to apply for unemployment.

BM and money UPDATE

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So BM is crying poor in court and stating she is in finanical distress raising the baby. Well, we found out why! She paid for her new man's bankruptcy with his wife. The wife did not pay a dime. BM paid the whole fee and it is documented in the legal papers. How dumb can she be?? BM basically took $1800 out of her child's mouth to help her boyfriend and his then wife. They have only been divorced less than a month.

God I love public information!

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