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Do I deserve to know?

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In the custody investigation I initiated regarding DS8, the custody investigator included a report that ExW's new SS13 Ds8's step brother) has been undergoing psychotherapy (37 sessions and counting) and is on medication that is helping him with a long list of "core issues." His behavior caused him to be removed from school several times (my DD16 told me at least once in handcuffs). He is currently attending some kind of alternative school half time and is being integrated back into regular middle school.

Is ExW becoming a GUBM, am I just finally realizing/admitting it, or is it nothing?

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DW and I are in the middle of a custody dispute with ExW regarding BS8. When I first approached ExW about a custody modification, she told me that DS8 would be staying with her "until the situation indicates that he would be better off otherwise." I am not sure what that means, but the next thing she said was that if I wanted to continue that line of talk, we would have to do it through lawyers. So that's what I did. The judge mandated mediation as a first step.

What do you think of this?

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For whatever reason, BS17 seldom visits me, DW and skids at our home. I don't like it, but I am dealing with it. DW seems to feel a lot of rejection regarding the situation, and rejection is something she and skids do not tolerate well. I know that DW harbors a lot of resentment, because she has said so, and because the last time I mentioned helping him with a car issue, she got very upset about how itwould negatively affect the skids (I felt the negative impact would be minimal) and called him the "golden child) and went on and on about how I favor him.

In the interest of full disclosure...

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DW has recently been reading my blogs and maintains that my blogs are only sharing one side of the story. She does not feel that her side is being represented at all, and I see her point. So, here goes. I am trying to write this in her voice and not provide any justification for nor cast doubt on any of the comments made. I think this is how she sees it.

Is This Manipulating BS?

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This morning DW told SS12 that he had to clean his room. He wasn't happy about it, then BS7 offered to help. DW said that if he did that, then SS12 would help him with his room. So BS7 did help him at least get the dirty laundry off the floor and put some stuff away. Maybe half an hour. No biggie.

In the meanwhile, DW is cleaning away, and tells SD15 that she needs to help. SD15 yells that she has a lot of stuff to do and will do some of her laundry. DW told her that she needed to do more than that, and she did clean a little. Again, no biggie to me.

Fallout from last night

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DW is indeed mad about her midnight stroll (see previous blog.) She is mad about being told that she and SS11 are "not wanted" at this weekend's events (again, see previous blog). Her words, not mine. She is in the basement watching a movie with SS11, after her panicked search for a present for SS11 that cost $200 and was delivered in her absence on Tuesday. There are literally enough boxes stacked in our bedroom that DW was in tears searching for that one. :sick: I have told her to not buy one more thing for my bios. I also requested the receipts for all the things they are receiving.

Economics, love, involvrnent and control...

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DW spent $25k on lawyers this year to win a custody battle. Financially, it was s drain. She also pays the phone bill. I am NOT saying she should, but she does. I went to the phone store and inquired about separating two of the lines, DD15's contract is up as is mine. To remove those two lines from my our current plan would reduce that bill by $100 per month .It would cost me $90 2 maintain those lines under another plan.

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