FDH finally got some kind of "real" response from FSD16 about what's upsetting her so badly. It still doesn't make sense to me but I have to acknowledge her fears. This would be long so I am going to sum it up a little about what led finally to the phone call Wednesday night they had as well as bring you all up to date.

They waited until my bios and I went to church on Sunday and then they sat my fiancé down and demanded he break up with me immediately and move out. Apparently, although there's been no major events or change in status quo except for me disengaging as much as possible, they "hate" me. They tried to use our own words against us. My fiancé and I agreed way back in 2009 when we started dating that we would end it if neither of us got along with the other's kids or the kids didn't get along. From day one, those kids were buddies and had a blast.

:jawdrop: FSS12 and FSD16 got in an actual fistfight last Friday night apparently and BM didn't discipline either of them over it. Nice.

FDH saw FSD16 last night for weeknight visit. FSS didn't go because he had basketball tryouts at his middle school. Before they even left BM's driveway, FSD is telling FDH all about fight. FDH had no idea anything had happened which we both found really odd as he had been told useless crap about kids constantly over last four or five months from BM yet two of his kids get in an actual physical fight and he never hears a peep from any of them.

Anyone ever feel secretly super proud when your bio kid does something that truly shows what a wonderful person they are growing up to be and they end up making the skids look lousy in comparison?

My 3 kids were asked by my FDH to make handmade cards for his grandmother who is turning like 90. They were more than happy to. My BS16 even wrote her an original poem and using his computer, translated it into her native language. He helped his sisters do similar translations on their own cards. They did it without hesitation and were very proud with the results.