Well, I got a response to the email I sent The Albatross on Fri. (see thread http://www.steptalk.org/node/22557). She responded with this on Fri:

I appreciate the time and effort that you spent in writing this apology. However, I am sure you will understand when I say that I am really unable to give a response at this time as the sting and utter impropriety of last night still has not worn off. With this being said, I hope you will also understand when I say that I will probably spend quite some time this weekend considering exactly what I feel will be an appropriate response. I will get back to you concerning all of the issues that you felt needed to be dredged back up, AGAIN as I feel able and hopefully, as you stated, we will be able to put this behind us, move forward, and start fresh.

Respectfully,

The Albatross

I responded with this:

I fully understand. However, I would like to say that although I can understand how you may feel these issues were "dredged back up AGAIN" keep in mind that outside of the issue about coming into the house the day of the soccer party, I, personally, have never spoken to you about how I felt about any of these things. Thank you, though, for acknowleding receipt of my apology. To be honest, I did not necessarily expect a response, although I would welcome any feedback you may have and issues you may wish to address. Have a good weekend.

I haven't heard a thing since. SO did tell me that she called him on Fri to whine and complain about me confronting her. He says that he told her that was between me and her. He says she tried to tell him what I said and he told her he didn't want to hear about it, and that as he understood, I would be sending her an email. Maybe that's why she hasn't figured out an "appropriate response" since she realizes that she has to deal directly with me on these issues. I still feel so much better having sent the email, and as I responded to her, I really never expected a reply. To be honest, outside of an apology for the disrespect she has shown me (which obviously isn't going to come) there isn't much she needs to "respond" to.