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Submitted by Red-headed_Stepmom on Thu, 04/08/2010 - 9:14pm

I haven't been on here for a couple weeks. Busy getting back in the swing of working full time.

And I haven't felt the need to vent as much.

I went to my sister's birthday party tonight and her husband pulled me aside as we were leaving and said "I don't think I've seen you as happy as you are now in all the time I've known you." And I realized that he's right. And also realized that he's the 2nd or third person to say this to me in the past month.

Frustration

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Submitted by Red-headed_Stepmom on Sun, 02/14/2010 - 6:58pm

Well, at least we had two days to ourselves this week. BM had called and said that the boys wanted to see us this weekend (we pick them up tomorrow after school) she thought we should get together today. Luckily, my sweet BF told her that we had plans (it IS Valentine's Day) even before telling me.

Sick child? Sick BM!

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Submitted by Red-headed_Stepmom on Thu, 02/11/2010 - 11:26am

So, the situation is this ... when BF and I met I was employed, he was in chemo and separated but living under the same roof at BM. Chemo ended, she moved out and to the opposite side of town, I moved in (when I was in town, as I traveled a LOT for work) we got my house ready to be moved back into (they were loosing their house in a foreclosure/bankruptcy), we moved into my house and I got laid off. Their divorce is still in process. We share custody of the boys 50/50, we have them Monday and Tuesday nights and every other Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Learning Curve

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Submitted by Red-headed_Stepmom on Thu, 02/11/2010 - 8:00am

I realized that while I need to have the community of other step-parents, to help me realize that I am not crazy and I am not the only one going through this, that I tend to shy away from posting on here because I feel like everything comes across as negative. I need a place to vent so that I can get rid of some of the negativity that I'm feeling, not wallow in it. So that I can sort out my feelings and get ideas on being more, staying true to me.

Under Pressure

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Submitted by Red-headed_Stepmom on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 12:25pm

So, BM requires that BF meets her for lunch every week or she throws a fit. Of course her schedule is what's most important and must be worked around. Since both BF and I are currently looking for jobs, our time doesn't matter ... nor does the cost of gas for the 30 mile drive (one way).

And I just know that he will come home feeling like he's been rolled over by a steam roller, having been told over and over again how he's a bad parent and that he never takes her or his sons into account.

And that is all BS!!!

Starting Here, Starting Now

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Submitted by Red-headed_Stepmom on Fri, 01/29/2010 - 11:24am

My problems with blogs has always been that I want to start at the very beginning ... and it's just not possible ... so I never get anything written. I guess that says something about living in the present.

So, today I joined StepTalk and today I'm starting this blog. With the here and now, the rest may or may not get filled in in time, but the important part is getting it out.

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