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Had a bit of a tiff with my wife last night. She made a financial investment without discussing it with me.

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Submitted by Rags on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 3:49pm

This is not specifically a Sparent or Blended family issue but I was curious to hear other perspectives.

The decision was sound. The problem is that she did it without discussing it with me first.

All of our assets are joint and we have always collaborated on those decisions. All in all it was not a huge deal other than she got angry with me when I expressed shock that she had made the decision without calling me to discuss it.

Let the games begin....... again.

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Submitted by Rags on Sat, 04/11/2009 - 4:57am

Well, it is time to make travel arrangements for SS's summer visitation with the Sperms. SpermGrandMa called and began her whinny preface to the real discussion.

"Ticket prices are too high, hurry up and buy them before they go up!" Yadda yadda yadda, blah, blah, blah....

We told her the first time that she called that we needed her desired dates so we could work out the three family (mine, wife's, and the Sperm's) three state summer visitation circuit for SS. Hey, he is a popular kid in all three families and in high demand in the summer.

I just had a thought. I believe we are all a sum of our experiences and those experiences are part of who we are.

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 9:23am

So why do many of us tend to get and stay frustrated about elements of our partners lives that happened before we ever met?

My wife will periodically express regret about her history and past with my SS's BioDad and dwell on it for several days. She dredges up and dwells on this stuff. I don't.

My perspective is that her past is pre-me and it does not bother me. Those experiences are part of what make her the amazing woman that I am so infatuated with.

Appology to Dany et-al for the use of the offensive term for BioDad.

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 03/20/2009 - 6:04pm

I apologize to all for the recent resurrection of the banished term for BioDad.

Not to justify my use of the term, but my SS is with HIM and THEM and my aggravation level is high.

Historically my SS has a very hard time with school following Spring Visitation and the period after Spring Visitation is our toughest as far as his grades, lying, and behavior.

I am hopeful that his comparatively stellar performance this school year indicates that he has matured and developed his character enough not to allow their toxic crap to adversely impact his performance.

Thought I would share my B-day letter from my I-Ls.

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Submitted by Rags on Sat, 03/14/2009 - 9:47am

My B-day was the middle of last month. My Dad called on my B-Day and asked me to hop a plane to spend some time with my Mom who was having a tough time recovering from knee replacement surgery which she had a week earlier. My brother was scheduled to fly in from Singapore for a business trip and Dad thought it would be good for Mom to have all of the original Rags clan together for a few days. Mom, Dad, Me and Pooh-Bear (my younger bro).

So as a surprise at my B-day dinner my wife handed me tickets to fly home to Mom and Dad's the next day.

Just getting tired of the constant and nagging crap from THEM and their seemingly ceaseless efforts to break my kids self esteem

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Submitted by Rags on Sat, 03/14/2009 - 1:01am

We called our son tonight (SS-16) to check in with him before he leaves for his SpringBreak visitation with the Sperms. He was so energized and thrilled as he talked to his Mom and I about his recent activities at school. Hearing the happiness and seeing the look on his Mom's face was pure bliss.

My post to the Step Family Letter Project.

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 02/20/2009 - 10:01pm

Sperm Donor•February 21, 2009 • No Comments
Well, after perpetrating statutory rape on a 16-year-old child (though you were never charged because the girl's father refused to press charges) when you were 22 and leaving her and your child for another 16-year-old child the young woman and child you threw away have turned out to be incredible people in spite of your idiocy.

B-I-L told us about some comments made by my SIL that have me seeing red!

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Submitted by Rags on Sat, 01/10/2009 - 8:46am

I flew my B-I-L out to spend a week with my wife so that they would get a chance to spend some time together before he leaves for Iraq. I did the same three years ago prior to his deployment to Afghanistan.

An interesting conversation came up regarding my S-I-L and some comments she repeatedly has made about my wife and I.

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