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Well they are off!!!

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Submitted by oddsareagainstme on Thu, 08/11/2016 - 11:51am

SO and SS18 packed up and headed out just after lunch yesterday! Very excited for them. I can't wait to see the pictures and hear the stories. Very sad that I will have zero contact with SO while he is gone because I will truly miss him. May sound dumb but we have never been apart this long! As of Tuesday night, there was a very good chance that they were not going to be able to go. On Sunday we were out of town helping SO's parents cut down some fallen trees and SO took the chainsaw to his hand. It was rough. Went to small town Urgent care to get it stitched up.

Relationships between exes... where are you??

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Submitted by oddsareagainstme on Thu, 08/04/2016 - 11:11am

Ok so, this came up in the whole dirt bike trip debacle and I wanted to know how many of you are on which side of the issue. SO and BM had a very rough divorce. They went to counseling for 4 years, 236 sessions total. BM had paddle locked every cupboard, closet, shed, drawer (you name it, she locked it) about a month before SO moved out. SO wasn't allowed to pick SK's up from day care after work even though they still lived together because she knew that would count as parenting duties when it was time to go to court for custody. She even told the mediator that.

Update on the Heart Ache

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Submitted by oddsareagainstme on Thu, 08/04/2016 - 10:37am

We had planned to take a day trip on Wednesday to a lake that SO had a cabin on growing up, with the ski boat and jetskis. SK's have been wanting to go there for a while. Well when SS18 told SO that he wasn't going to be going on the Colorado trip, SO lost all interest in the trip. He didn't know how he could sit in a boat with him and stare at him all day while he was clearly hurt and angry. Tuesday night SO said two words ("hi" and "yeah") to SS18. SS18 knew something was different.

I can't stand the heart ache over here!

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Submitted by oddsareagainstme on Wed, 08/03/2016 - 12:27am

My SO has waited many tough and trying years for his kids to turn 18. He waited out the years of hurt for the day they turned 18 because "everything would be docent." BM is very controlling and vindictive! Well, last September his son turned 18. Of course her response to the first time they try to plan anything outside the parenting schedule, she comes up with:
BM: just because he turned 18 doesn't give you, or him the right to run around as you please!"
SO: actually I think it does
BM: take me to court and find out"
SO: ummmm no need... he's 18...

New here. A little help?

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Submitted by oddsareagainstme on Fri, 07/29/2016 - 6:23pm

Sorry if I do not know any of the lingo here yet. Just stumbled on this page the other night. I Thought it would be nice to have a place to get things out. Maybe even get some advice here and there. There is a LOT of back story, so I am sorry if you feel like you got thrown into the middle of a storm, but I don't know where to start other than right here and right now.