SD16 is generally a good kid - loving, good grades, nice to be around when she's not hormonal, but she is so effing lazy by my standards. Yesterday, she got an attitude with DH because he said he couldn't drive her to a study session and told her to look at a bus schedule instead. She didn't say anything, but got in a super pissy mood with him. That just drove me over the edge. She treats him like her personal driver, yet doesn't expect the same from her mother. When it's BM's week with her kids, SD doesn't do any extracurricular activities.

I've been with DH for over 5 years. I refer to him as DH here and in real life when I'm introducing him to others that don't know us. I call SS and SD my stepkids on those occasions too. We are pretty much married in my mind - we own a house together, have a child together, have a joint account together, list each other as beneficiary for certain accounts. But, we aren't officially married. DH proposed years ago, but neither us of made any plans.

Though this happened months ago, I just found out that SS12 ran up over $500 worth of online games on BM's credit card. DH was trying to keep the drama from me because I already have a low opinion of SS and BM and he didn't want me disliking them even more, but SD mentioned it, so now I know. Apparently back when BM discovered SS's shenanigans, she repeated asked DH to transfer SS's allowance account to her to pay her part of the money back.

My DH wants to do a family portrait. One with DH, me, SD, SS, and DS and one with just DH, me, and DS. I've been avoiding the subject. I've grown to really dislike SS. Outwardly our relationship is fine, we aren't loving towards each other, but we both seem to tolerate each others existence. Privately, I really just want him to ask to live with his mom because I can't stand him. I don't want to have a portrait done because then it will be displayed in the house, most likely in the living room. To be blunt, I don't want to be reminded of his face on a constant basis.