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MissK03's picture

Well, for everyone who read my last blog.. BM took SD out two weeks for the first time since august 2019. Oh, and went into our house using my sick dog as an excuse while SO and myself were at work.  She literally has not done anything with skids all year besides taking SS's out for their bdays and SS17 once for pizza. SDs birthday was in April so, BM stopped here in the driveway, brought her Dunkin (only her not the boys) didn't even give her a card for her 13th birthday instead sent SO $100 via PayPal for her birthday. 
 

SO! I get home from work today and SD says oh did dad tell you about SS17 today. I said yeah I talked to him quick before I left work. They got into because SO turned the data off on his phone because of his grades. 
 

Anyways, SD says yeah SS17 called mom and was complaining to her too. I said well your brother uses all angles to try and get out of stuff.

Now, SD is a bright girl and her and I are very close. 

She proceeds to say well, when I was with mom the other day she was all like "make sure you tell me when you get your period first before you tell missk." 
 

SD doesn't have her period yet. She's still growing. (She's 5'10" right now) I thought for sure it was going to happen last year so I already bought her pads. 
 

SD then goes on to say how mom brought up the bra thing again and the "dress" 

So I got SD her first bra. The girl needed and at the time they were going to BMs EOWE soooo BM had time to do this.. she didn't.. the dress fiasco lead to court. I bought her 5th grade father daughter dance dress. I bought her her 4th and I had just starting seeing SO when she was in 3rd. BM never bought the ones prior to me.

I just told SD listen, (we have had these convos before) I go do what you want to do. I said don't let your mother guilt you into making you feel bad for this situation. I said it's not fair. 
 

SD goes well.. she didn't tell me about her wedding so why should I tell her first. I go just do what you want. 
 

It went a little further, SD was like well even if mom bought me one it probably would have been a Walmart dress even though she spends all her money on her motorcycles.(which is true she spends its all herself)   I'll add I buy SD nice things. I told SD I never once tried replacing your mom I just wanted to give you guys a good life and help your dad. 
 

SD gets all of this.

So I tell SO when  he gets home and he just shakes his head and says how BM is stuck at the age when she left (almost 10 years ago) and she doesn't realize that they are older and SD has a higher IQ then her. LOLLL. So true.

SD also made a comment how "dad probably wouldn't answer of BM calls." Which honestly I wish was true but, she must have made a comment to SD about something bogus about SO "not answering."

So pathetic.. you haven't had one-on-one with your daughter in almost a year and half and what do you do... try to pit her against us.. or mainly me like it's some sick game. 
 

All and all.. not surprised. 

 

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MissK03's picture

I'll add too the BM always says "these are the things I SHOULD be doing." keyword: SHOULD.

SD says mom says (above statement) but she wasn't doing them. Even before dad met you.. 

Exactky SD, exactly. 

JRI's picture

Im really glad that girl has you.  Boy, BM is a piece of work!  How dare she even think of disrupting your relationship with SD when she has nothing to offer: time, attention, anything.  It's a good thing SD has an understanding of the situation.  Wow.

tog redux's picture

This is what BMs like this do when they feel "victimized" (because you know, not allowing her to get away with "innocently" coming into your house to pet your dog is victimizing her).  They try to find flying monkeys - people who will take their side and punish you on their behalf. 

I hope your SD can maintain her clarity. My SS lost it as he got older and BM's bribes meant more to him.

MissK03's picture

I hope she does too. I think she will but, I know she will be in a positions later in life where BM will try and make her choose.. there have been plenty of times BM has done this and SD hasn't really fed into it. Like what happened two weeks ago. 
 

If they were still going to BMs I think things we would be way more complicated with skids. So, it is better that she stopped taking them. 
 

BM and her mom (BM learned all her manipulation tactics from her) have on/off again relationship. I think this will be their future. I also think then when SD finds out the real reason of their divorce that will shed a bad light on BM. SD honestly believes "they fell out of love." 

SS16 gets it and for SS17... we all know he is BM. 

newvegas17's picture

This poor baby should tell the adult that she's with at the time when her first period happens.

She'll need supplies, and she'll need to get herself cleaned up.

What? Does BM want her to soak in her own rotting blood pants for a week till its her EOWE?