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Advice about something not related to step parenting......

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Okay so I dont have a ton of girlfriends hence why I am writing a blog about this. I am kind of shy and I dont like to get into peoples business. I was wondering if anyone on here might want to lend their personal experiences to me or advice about something I am not sure how to handle. I work in a very very small company only six people work in the office. One girl is really close to my age she is 21. She has a boyfriend been together 6 months and he seems like a complete loser from what I have heard but again I dont get involved not my life so I keep my mouth shut.

Kids say the darndest things

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Ok so yesterday I got home around 5:30 after picking up my two older ones from school. I was surprised to see my SO home because lately he is hardly home before 8pm. He wasn't feeling so good so he came home and sent the babysitter home and he stayed with the younger two. The younger two are ages 4 and 2 ( practically 3). The four year old told my SO that for christmas he should buy me two rings and a white dress so we can get married. lol. He asked why two rings? The four year old said because...... I swear I did not brain wash him or train him to say those things.

Happy camper?

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I wrote a blog yesterday about not being a happy camper and not really knowing why and blah blah blah. This morning it hit me I feel taken advantage of. I pick up the boys everyday, I cook everyday, I get them ready for bed everyday, I clean up after them and its fine but my SO is never around. I mean he used to be around all the time and now he is working so much. I feel guilty bringing this up because I know he is working and I know how his place of business is.

I am not a happy camper

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So this weekend started out good. I got off work early on Friday and my SO was already at home because he was off. So I get home we head to the store and hung out and it was really nice. He had to work between 7-4 on Sat and that means I have no help when watching all four of the boys. He goes to work and the day isnt horrible but I was pretty bored. He gets home and he wants to go to his friends house. This friend is a good guy and I dont mind his wife but I just wanted to be with him not around a bunch of other people drinking, smoking and being obnoxious.

Wondering??

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Does anyone ever wonder how their SO or DH or DW was ever in love with their ex. I look at BM and I just cannot see how he ever felt anything for her let alone have four kids with her. I almost get confused and need an explanation like why would you? How could you find her attractive with the way she looks, acts and the words that come out of her mouth I just am so confused sometimes.

Normal kid stuff?

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I do enjoy being a stem mom I really do. I love my SO's kids. The oldest I had the hardest time with but he came around and now I feel sometimes we are closer then him and my SO. Yesterday I picked him up like everyday from school and asked if he was going to boxing practice. He said yes my uncle is going with me. Okay so I take him home and he went down the street to his uncles house. His uncle is 15 and they live in the same apt complex as us. His uncle actually already left. They box at different gyms so if his uncle already left most likely my little one doesnt get to go.

Yesterday was only Monday

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So yesterday was a visit with BM. She took the kids to Mcdonalds and filled them with soda btw she knows its a rule for them not to have soda. The boys came home bouncing off the walls! Saying how awesome their visit was because their mom let them have soda. Awesome. So I start doing dishes to ignore this positive talk about this woman she is so irritating. Water starts coming into my sink. The upstairs apartment is putting spaghetti down the drain and its coming up in my sink. I turn off my water and have my SO help get the water out.

Intro to my world, my life.........

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Hi everyone! I am a step mom of four boys. I love them and cannot imagine how it would be without them but this is the hardest thing I think I have ever done. I am 22 and I have no bio kids.I met my SO through work, he was my old boss. So at first I didnt want anything serious because of the children. I thought to myself why would i settle down now? At the time I was 20 and I didnt want children. So over time of course feelings got more serious. We decided we would take it a step further and I met the kids and i fell in love with them. Its like they are my own. My SO has sole custody.

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