My last post was almost one year ago and it is still basically the same old crap. You would think that adult SKs wouldn't cause as many problems, but then again, you would assume that adults would be able to take care of themselves, wouldn't you! I get so tired of hearing from DH how proud he is of SD for being so responsible that I could just puke. He thinks that because she has her own place and is going to school that everything is fantastic. And when you read sentences like that it does sound good on the surface, but let me state a few more details.

Since SD has moved out, the tension level between us has steadily decreased. For the first few weeks, I could feel myself tense up when she came to visit, but lately her visits have been very pleasant. Even our friends (the ones I mentioned she had pissed off in an earlier post) have said that she is easier to be around now. I have even done a few things for her and gotten thanked for doing them - ie made her 2 sets of curtains and offered to make her son's birthday cake to save her some money.

It has been so nice not having to deal with SD except on a limited basis. She comes over a couple of times a week, stays for a few hours and then leaves. She occasionally talks to me while she is there and I don't really go out of my way to talk to her, but everyone seems to be ok with that arrangement. A friend of ours pointed out that, while she truly is not a pleasant person to be around, he believes that she simply is unaware that she treats people badly. For example, she came over for her dad's birthday, sat beside me on the couch, but kept her back to me for almost an hour.

I really do wonder if SD is a pathological liar. When I first met her, she was around 8. I thought she was cute and she would sit on my lap, talking to me. One night, she told me a great story about her mom taking her to Disney World and about all the rides she went on, characters she saw, etc. I told her dad about it and he said it was a cute story, but she had never been to Disney World. I thought "that is odd, not cute," but I didn't say anything.