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Any of this sound familiar?

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So after several increasingly miserable weekends with SD, last night I finally initiated what I hoped would be a calm, constructive conversation about how SO and I could improve the situation.

I brought up some behaviors and examples of how SD6 has been acting like she doesn’t like me and is disrespectful to me. I asked if we could find a way to get to the bottom of this and maybe fix it. Since she did seem to like me previously, I thought maybe some event or misunderstanding happened that caused the change.

What did he take out of it? “I know, I know- you hate SD!”

OK, so things aren't so much better after all

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I posted right after Easter how things had started looking up in our little piece of the world, trying to spread some optimism. I’m sure plenty of seasoned SMs had a good little snort over that one. Well, after our little roll of good weekends and productive talks with SO about his guilty, permissive Daddying, things did go well for awhile, but then kind of sputtered out.

I wonder if my BD is a dreaded skid?

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My BD14's biodad started an affair with his Soulmate (evidently not me, the woman he chose to marry) when I was pregnant with her and we divorced when she was an infant. He moved out of state before she was even a toddler. He visited her a couple times as a pre-schooler and then has flown her out to visit every other year or so since she was 6. He calls her once every couple months. She seems to love him, at least she used to, but really barely knows him.

Another decent weekend and sending hopeful thoughts out to other SMs

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Last week I wrote a mega-entry about the last month or so, kind of summarizing for my own mind and organizing my thoughts about what has happened in the last month since I found Step Talk and read Stepmonster. I explained the Big Conversation I had with SO about how it wasn’t so much his daughter that was bothering me, but his guilty/permissive parenting and his putting the whims/manipulations of a 6 year old ahead of our relationship, plus giving our relationship some priority.

A chronicle of what has changed since I found Step Talk

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A chronicle of what has changed since I found Step Talk…this turned out really long, but I needed to get it out of my system. Maybe someone will read the whole thing, maybe not; either way it organized my thoughts and feelings and has sort of caught me up to date with my process of coming to terms with (or not) with skids.

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