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FIL Throwing a Tantrum over DH's request to stop being a PITA
FIL was a violent jerk when DH was growing up. This is why DH is so against physical punishment. So, FIL has made it his personal pursuit to "cause" DH to cave in and use physical punishment on skids (5 and 2).
Every time FIL visits, he incites the kids to act horrible, gets them to break every rule we have, gets them to pick on each other and hit each other, call each other names, etc. It is nonstop garbage. He will literally talk them into doing something DH just told them not to do. Then, of course, he's totally pleased with himself when DH finally snaps at yells at the boys.
BM came in the house AGAIN
After nearly a year of nonsense from BM's lawyer, DH finally got a court date set for the following child support issues: we have kids 70% and pay BM child support as if we only had them EOW. BM is also trying to get increased child support despite the fact that she does not take care of them the majority of the time.
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Freudian Slip?: My own mother refers to BM as DH's "wife"
This nonsense has been going on for YEARS now. I need advice.
DH and I have been married for two months, and have been living together for about three.
My OWN mother still refers to BM as DH's wife, as in: "When is DH's wife coming to get the kids?" OR "I hope DH's wife isn't dragging you back into court again."
They have been divorced since before SS2 (about to be three) was even born.
Yes, we started dating before the divorce was finalized. HOWEVER, he was out of the house and had filed for divorce. Additionally, THAT WAS LIKE FOUR YEARS AGO!
I was a PASling (anyone else?)
It is only since I joined this site that I figured out what happened to my brother and I as children. I didn't understand the pattern before, but I now realize that we were PASlings.
My parents never got a divorce (they are still married) but my mother was a stay at home mom and PASed the living hell out of both of us.
This is how it went:
My mother, brother, and I all slept on the living room floor together until I was 11 (my brother was 9). My mother told us she didn't want us to have to be "alone."
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As Expected: BM's medical emergency on our skid-free weekend
Ughhh.
BM has the kids this weekend and took them to the other side of the state to see her family.
Great.
Well, of course, SS5 has eczema and BM never does anything about it, so SS5 is constantly chapped and has splitting skin on his hands.
BM doesn't even have medicine for it because SHE DOES NOT CARE.
However, now that she is with family, she is making a huge thing about it (I'm sure someone noticed, and she had to respond by flying into super-mom mode).
SS5's behavior continues to get worse . . .
SS5 is about to turn 6. I genuinely love this kid, but he is driving me nuts right now.
An hour ago, he told me I couldn't have any of the DOZEN donuts his dad bought this morning because they were for him and his brother only.
He torments his 2 year old brother constantly. This includes pushing, pulling him to the ground, jabbing him in the side, stepping on him, and grabbing him by the crotch.
He also "frames" his brother by antagonizing him until SS2 hits, and then getting SS2 in trouble for hitting.
He lies about teasing his brother.
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PAS-ed by my own Mother
My mother is PASing the skids. I've been very upset with her behaviors over the last three months, and just yesterday realized what is happening.
She is PASing them from ME SPEFICIALLY.
She refuses to follow the rules I set out for the kids. She argues with me and interferes when I punish them (they get sent to a whopping 2 minutes of time out here and there). When one of them starts fussing about something, she interferes with me and tries to give them different options when I have clearly stated they don't have options.
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Predictions for Christmas Drama: BM and In-Laws
I'm going to post some predictions here for the Christmas Holiday Chaos. Please add your own.
1. BM will act like everything is fine until two days before the Christmas Holiday, when she will suddenly become "confused" about the visitation schedule and will promptly create her own bizarre schedule for the kids, which will magically allow her to parade her children in front of her family for the max amount of time and then dump them on us when there is no longer an audience.
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Child Abuse? Is there something going on here?
The boys have exhibited a wide range of bizarre behaviors for as long as I can remember. However, recently their behaviors have been even more strange and I am starting to get worried that there is some sort of abuse going on. I'd love it someone--anyone--could give me some ideas about this.
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OT: DH just rescued me and our dog from two pit bulls
We just got back from the park and I am still shaking. DH, DH's dad, and I took SS2 and SS5 and our collie, Domino, to the park. I was following the boys over to the playground. They were quite a bit ahead of me (thank God) because they were racing DH.