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Submitted by LPS on Sun, 06/03/2012 - 9:21am

DH hasn't been able to drive bc he's been getting dizzy spells, so I have been driving everywhere for almost 3 weeks now. Today, I just feel like sitting and doing nothing and SD wants to go to her BF 5 towns away and I dont feel like taking her there and then picking her up, she was there yesterday and I didn't get her until almost 9pm. I told DH I dont want to take her and she has to do something around here, he said SD shouldn't have to suffer because he cant drive, too bad, I'm not doing it. I dont care if he's mad either.

Am I wrong?

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Submitted by LPS on Thu, 05/03/2012 - 7:50pm

Tell me, if I'm wrong because right now I'm pissed at my DH. DH took SD to a wake tonight and his XW was there, he was telling me when he saw her, she was crying and he gave her a hug. He told me her husband, looked away, like he didn't want to see it. I gave DH a dirty look and said he was probably pissed, I would've looked away too.

He told me he hugged her after I had asked him what he was wearing, he looked kinda nice, he told me he looked "fly".

So he made himself look "fly" as he says and he hugged his ex wife. WTF is that about?

Is saying "Thank you" taught or do you think by 16 it should be a given?

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Submitted by LPS on Tue, 05/01/2012 - 12:56pm

I ask because my mother thinks a child needs to be taught to say thank you. I told my mom, by 16 SD should know to say thank you whether she was taught or not. My mother said this is why I need to forest a relationship with SD to teach her, I said I'm done.

Help me disengage

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Submitted by LPS on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 7:42pm

Everything I try to do for/about SD, I am always shot down by DH. Then we get in a fight and I'm tired of it. We're in a fight right now as a matter of fact about the smell thing. So, I'm done caring. I tell my mom all the time I'm done and she says that's what you always so and she's right. So, how do I actually truly disengage? What do I do, do I just take care of my bios and my DH and not do or care about anything SD does? Help me.

Disengaging starting now...

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Submitted by LPS on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 3:57pm

Asked DH if she spoke with SD about the smell, he said, I smelled her, she's not smoking pot. I said, she just took a shower. He said, we'll I put my nose in her mouth. I said, this is not the first time, if I smell it again, I'm going to buy a drug test and test her. He immediately got mad and said he didn't agree. I said, "you know what, you worry about it, I'm disengaging right now."

Yup, she smells again....

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Submitted by LPS on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 2:26pm

So, SD just came home from school. She's the only kid home. She walked in and instantly I smelled something. I have a super sensitive sense of smell which in turn unfortunately affects my breathing and makes my lungs hurt. So, I sniff around and even the door area in front of her closed door stinks. I can't really tell what it is but it's gross. I knock and go in there, I ask her why she smells, she said maybe it's from the rain, since she walked home. I said no, its something else.

child care contract for XH?

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Submitted by LPS on Wed, 04/25/2012 - 7:21pm

I went for a job interview today and it went really well, I have to go back on Friday. Anyway, I am going to have to put DD8 in some sort of before and after school day care. I spoke with my friend and she is going to do it for me and I am going to pay her. My XH is responsible for 1/2 the fee. I am thinking about writing a contract for the day care, since I know XH will cause a problem reimbursing me. Has anyone ever done this and can you give me tips and/or an example on how to write this?

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