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dh is sick and tired of being sick and tired

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Tue, 06/19/2007 - 11:33am

he has no relationship with sd and it seems to only be dwindling each visitation. no matter that he calls her constantly, he never gets to talk to her. when they hang up, they used to have this really sweet thing they would say before they hung up, nothing for three weeks now. it's like bb is brainwashing her and sd is getting further and further from dh. it is breaking dh's heart and on top of that, all these lies bb keeps spewing and all the court dates...it is just too much. he said he wants to tell the judge that this whole visitation thing is a freaking joke. it is!

back from vacation, back to bs

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Mon, 06/18/2007 - 11:02am

Smile so, i got back sat. night and what was in the mailbox? an affadavit, of course! bb didn't meet dh for father's day, which is HIS court-ordered day, nor did she bring sd for the three-week vacation...and she has the audacity to say dh has been forfeiting his weekends and that ALL she wants is for him to be CONSISTENT...so what does she close that with? asking the judge to cancel his visitations or have them supervised!! how the hell does that make sense???

can i get off this crazy carousel?

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Wed, 06/06/2007 - 9:07am

talked to bb about our visitation this weekend and sd just 'balled' when she got in bb's car supposedly. dh didn't talk to sd very much this weekend. are you kidding me? i told her 'look, stop picking us apart; dh is a great father and he will never live up to what you want.' and basically we just talked in circles about how dh is not consistent, blah, blah, blah, but yet it's amazing that she fights our visitation every single weekend...it makes you crazy to deal with her sometimes. but i was hanging with friends and i got off the phone pretty quickly.

wanna hear some funny shiznit?

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Tue, 06/05/2007 - 3:17pm

i know i shouldn't be doing it but i was checking out bb's boyfriend's myspace page and i just had to laugh. first off, bb bf is dh's ex best friend (we used to all three live together like 6 years ago) and started dating bb 3 or 4 years ago. i say 'ex' because not only has he totally forgotten everything dh used to tell him about how crazy bb was, but he calls dh occasionally and tells him crazy shit like 'i'm her father now' and 'you were never there.' he used to live with us and he knows how bb was!!!! how can people live like this? seriously.

no vacation for sd

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Fri, 06/01/2007 - 1:12pm

talked to bb again today and she told she wasn't bringing sd on thursday for our three-week vacation b/c she didn't want her to go with me. i asked her why and she said because sd doesn't want to spend time with me, she wants to spend it with dh...so why doesn't dh get his three weeks then? yeah, can you say contradiction? it just wears me out; that's why by the time i post on here, i'm so over it i don't disclose very much. the bottom line is that it's our vacation time and she has no say what dh wants to do with her.

so, i spoke with bb about vacation last night

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Thu, 05/31/2007 - 9:53am

and she said 'absolutely not. her vacation is with him, not you!' ouch. so i'm the big, bad guy, huh? interesting. what is equally astonishing is that we were having a great conversation until she found out dh doesn't want anything to do with her, won't go to counseling with her, and from now on, i told her she and i can communicate. she said 'so i'm going to talk to you on how to help dh become a better father?' i said, you don't have to worry about him, i'm in that position now, you leave that to me. the nerve!

so i still haven't heard back from the judge...

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Wed, 05/30/2007 - 12:09pm

regarding whether i can take sd10 on vacation with me w/o dh. it's our three-week vacation/visitation, and although legally i can take her, i wanted to clear it with the judge since bb is always trying to wreck our plans...i hate to bug them but we are leaving in like 10 days!!! and i still need to call bb to tell her (well, i'm not sure i am going to tell her, should i?) or work out details (give her our #, etc.). actually, what do i have to give her? according to our sharing plan, we had to give her 60 days notice and that's it. so do i have to tell her anything?

okay, so i called bb last night and worked the psychology...

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Thu, 05/24/2007 - 10:44am

other than wanting to reach through the phone and strangle her at least a dozen times, things went well. i was so proud of myself! i definitely utilized my psych minor! hahaha. she of course painted the best picture of herself, how she has never lied throughout the past 8 years and how she has always waited patiently for dh to take responsibility, blah blah blah BLAH. it's such bullshit, i can't even regurgitate it for you all. so we'll see how long this lasts!!!
wish us luck!
much love.

i'm thinking to become the mediator...

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Wed, 05/23/2007 - 12:39pm

there was a time when i used to talk to bb and things were working out well. i'm thinking about going back to that. dh can be such a pushover with bb that it drives me insane. he gets sucked right back into the same ol' conversations each time and we all know that rehashing something 1,000,000 times is so worth it! but seriously, with the upcoming vacation and such, i am thinking i may just give her a call myself. my question is, have any of you successfully dealth with a bb this way??

question: can stepmom take sd on vacation w/o dh?

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Submitted by lmdavi0 on Tue, 05/22/2007 - 8:44am

okay, so if we do go ahead and get sd for our three-week vacation, dh can't go. i'm going with my whole family for a week to the beach, and would love to take sd with me (it was originally planned for dh, sd, and myself to go, but dh got a new job and can't get off). so if we already have her for those weeks, am i allowed to take her on the vacation? what rights do i have? she would have so much fun with her cousins and swimming and playing...i don't know if i should or not.

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