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Submitted by LilyBelle on Sun, 06/03/2012 - 7:09pm

I just want to thank everyone here for your support and allowing me to vent.

Since I have decided to end it with SO, I probably won't need to vent here for a while, but I still want to stay on and follow boards, and see how you guys keep being strong!

You all are really inspiring!

Why I face problems head on rather than ignore them. No matter how much you ignore an elephant in your life, its crap still sti

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Submitted by LilyBelle on Thu, 05/24/2012 - 4:25pm

I am a "grab the bull by the horns" kind of person. Have been as long as I remember. For people who are more passive in their problem solving approach, I can be difficult to understand. I saw a blog today about marriage, but in my opinion, it applies to almost any situation in life. I thought of so many here on ST that want to address issues head on and are married to people who want to ignore them.

Pick your battles

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Submitted by LilyBelle on Sat, 04/28/2012 - 1:26pm

Almost anytime the topic of parenting teens is part of conversation, the adage, "choose your battles wisely" is declared in a very wise way.

However, many people who say it don't really seem to have an idea of how to go about doing that....

When I was a very young mother, I thought about the battles that I would fight. When my firstborn was about 10, I discussed it with her for the first time. And I reserved the right to add other issues to the list if I see fit.

My words of wisdom for the day.... totally off topic

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Submitted by LilyBelle on Fri, 04/27/2012 - 10:42am

If you don't like getting a phone call from your child's teacher at 7:30 a.m. perhaps you should answer your phone or return phone calls made during more convenient times of the day and/or respond to messages and written correspondences left over several weeks' time. Just sayin......

I find that it is always best to assume the best possible motive until that has been proven wrong.

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Submitted by LilyBelle on Wed, 04/25/2012 - 6:51pm

Not every birth mother is a sorry ass, good for nothing, crazy ass, insane, childish person with an agenda. My ex tried to present me that way in order to justify his having an affair, seeking greener grass, having a mid-life crisis..... whatever. In the end, the truth was evident to everyone, even his family.

There is no handbook on "How to graciously co-exist with your ex's new spouse who you don't know being involved in your kids' life." It's difficult.

Some things make it more difficult, such as when the new spouse is the woman with whom he committed adultery.