OT - So cute and an abuse update
So BS7 came to mine after school today as I have had the hell of 5 x 12 hour 7p-7a shifts in the last 6 days, so he was with his dad.
I mentioned tonight that the Easter Bunny needs a clean slate...so he cleaned my entire living room for me! He then asked how I would let the bunny know he was being good. I told him we parents have our ways. He then needed a poop (TMI!) so while he was doing that I got a solitary empty egg and put it in the living room, he came out and was literally jumping up and down "mommy, look, did you see?! He knows I cleaned! He checked! He is magic!".
He just brushed his teeth and is in bed, I am fighting the exhaustion of work to be the bunny (I already packed all the eggs in anticipation of being tired). Now, the main issue is that his 9 month old kitten may well find all the eggs before him!
I love this age where they are so innocent!
Oh, and for those of you who know the history of "abuse" last year, today me, the BM of half-bro (HB) 9, the counselor and the 2 boys went to the park. The counselor wanted to see how the boys are together and my ex, their dad, refuses entry to his house, so this was our go around! The boys were great, she said they display a normal sibling relationship, I am so relieved. Apparently HB9 went home and told HS12 and HS14 and we now have an invite to join their family (HB and HSs and BM2 and her husband (I am BM3)) at the farm tomorrow, from the kids! BS7 is so excited! All this is fully endorsed by the counselors (ex is telling all the kids all us BMs are abusive and they hope this will stop the tension between the siblings)...so wish me luck...this whole blended family thing feels like I am related to a city!
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Thank you! I was really
Thank you! I was really nervous today. I was SM to HB9 for nearly 6 years. It was rocky towards the end, mainly as my ex was setting me up to be the bad guy when he decided to move in his GF.
HB9 told his individual counselor that he and I would have physical fights (really?! I left when he was 6!, but yes as a responsible adult woman I often fight elementary school kids!). Interestingly when discussing this, HB9 said he wanted to make it better with me because he felt bad (poor kid, he never really did anything to me, sure the events of last summer against my BS7 were tough, but not his fault), so today was also a first step towards him seeing I am not angry with him, which he is convinced I am. Tomorrow will be the same with the sisters, but HS12 always says she misses me and we were always close and HS14 likes me too, so they are not a concern.
Ex fills the poor kids heads with how bad their mom's are - it was obvious today when BS7 loudly told BM2 "I did not know you could be nice". Also, counselor says it was obvious from comments between the boys that boundaries are crossed with the kids - no shit! I had BS7 get in the car today to tell me why he should move schools (to one convenient to ex!) - never mind I am residential and he does not live in district for either school!
Sorry, that became a rant!
90% of the time I ignore him,
90% of the time I ignore him, the 10% I have to deal with I shake my head. He is a charmer and very convincing, so I find talking with him, even about the most mundane things results in me becoming very confused and questioning reality as he will swear up and down the sky is green.
The counselors help me a lot as they see through it and understand.
I am a little worried about the craziness that will come our way if the kids tell him they met up on our time - that will be another bit of his control lost and he will not like it.