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I sent BM a message

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on myspace. I'm just really tired of the drama and the cloud that it causes in my relationship with FH. I totally let BM have power over my feelings and I know that is wrong..I've always been the type of person that hates to be on the outs with anyone...I have no enemies that I know of - except for BM. I've gone this road before..made "peace" with BM and than she has turned around and backstabbed me or just acted up..this time.. I just sent a simple note that said "look..we don't have to be friends or like one another..but to spend time on this drama is a waste of energy.

OMGOMG! I'm FUMING..just when i said I wouldn't let her get to me

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My BD13 is home just getting over the flu and so SS was home with her afterschool instead of the normal sitter (we didn't want to risk the germs getting to her son who has disabilities)..and SS was not feeling well in the morning.

So BD13 and SS go to the park..well on the way back who comes down the street HONKING her horn..but Ms. Piggy...and instead of just driving by..she stops..because she wants to see SS. (she is not his BM but my FH's X and so she USED to take care of SS).

I'm not only one that feels SS is "not normal for his age"

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I hate to say that word "normal" because who really defines normal..but I couldn't think of a better description..so please don't bash me for using that. I love my SS and because of that I want him to be at his age level. He does not have any type of IQ or mental disability..he is actually a VERY smart little boy..but he has just been babied all his life...and I'm not the only one that has noticed it..in fact EVERYONE notices it.

How do I NOT let her get to me?? vent.

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Sooo frustrated...how can I NOT let her get to me..EVERYONe says..don't let her get to you..she does it out of jealousy and to get under your skin..which she does get under my skin. I'm the type of person though that I don't take being disrespected lightly..I've tried SOOO many times to talk to this girl and be "cool" with her even to the point that I've agreed with her on some aspects of my FH doing things wrong. I told this girl I would help her get into college as she had no clue.

OT - JELLO SHOTS!

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I'm sure we all need them! T.G.I.F.F!! Yea that extra F in there.

I got a craving for jello shots..I've never made them - anyone have some good suggestions..the only alcohol I have at home right now is Pinot Grigio (which I won't use)..and some 80proof Jamaican Rum.

? - would you consider your Sk's before leaving?

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I'm just wondering for the SM's that have good relationships with their Sk's but still deal with BS..would you consider your Skids when leaving...like would they prevent or prolong you from leaving?

I know some Sm's the Skids are the reason they'd leave! LOL!

Like in my case I basically have adopted my SS5 as my own and he thinks of me and refers to me as his mommy. FH and I have had a few relationship ending arguments..but besides thinking of my own BD and how happy she is in our life with FH I think of SS and how he'd feel also if FH and I were to break up.

Wave hello or flip her the bird?

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The BM in my life is a serious fruit loop. I think I'm pretty good at figuring and dealing with people .. even "strange" ones..but she is really just "out there". She is plain DUMB.

The last communication I had with BM and the last communication FH with BM(other than at his pickup/dropoff) we BOTH told her off...I know if I was her at this point and I drove by me on the street I would look the other way - NOPE!

ughh..another blog..life as a BM not always perfect

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I'm a SM but I was a BM first..my BD is 13 and her father is a total friggen' moron. Don't ask me how I've always gotten along (well almost gotten along) with all his girlfriends.probably cuz' ANYONE has to have more sense than him.

Anyways..he got laid off after 14yrs at same employer. They totally shut down his yard (he worked at a railyard). In our divorce decree they based child support (which now I'm not getting either in two months) on the fact that he had to provide medical and dental.

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