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Second guessing my disengagement

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Submitted by joan mary on Mon, 03/06/2017 - 11:01am

So, here I am with 15 months of disengagement from SD2 and DH is starting to hint around that SD2 does not know why I don't talk to her any more. Subtle speak for "poor me, SM does not call me". I am also guessing she is unhappy that her kids don't get Christmas or birthday presents anymore either. She might also be wondering if the kids are getting any more deposits into the educational accounts that I set up for them. All that is now the responsibility of DH and he knows it. I do remind him several times to buy the presents or make the deposits but I wont do it for him. Period.

Face Book Problem

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Submitted by joan mary on Sun, 11/23/2014 - 6:01pm

Last week my husband showed his true colors on facebook. He has always made such a fuss that we are one family and his kids are my kids and my kids are his kids, blah blah blah. Insisted that he looks at my kids as "his" and he loves them just as much as his does his bio kids. All of this has been said repeatedly with more than a little censure as I do not get along with several of his kids. The implication has always been that he is the better step parent than I am.

What has DH really done for your kids?

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Submitted by joan mary on Mon, 02/24/2014 - 10:34am

DH and I got into in this weekend and the bottom line is that he thinks that I was a poor step mom and he was a better step dad.

So I started thinking about all the stuff over the years - back to when kids were still at home and I tried to come up with stuff that one of us did for the SKids.

1. I took his kids to the dentist - orthodontist - dr - counselor. DH never took mine.

2. I helped pay for his kids ortho bill. DH never signed on the contract for mine.

Very Proud of my BD

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Submitted by joan mary on Sat, 02/22/2014 - 3:42pm

Today, BD 25 said that she was going to try to reach out to SD 31 and invite her and her kids to an outing that BD pays for. Kid event that should be a good time for everyone. DH and I are invited too and I offered to take everyone out for dinner afterward. I am so proud of her for being the bigger person and trying to extend the olive branch (again). Will it work? Maybe not, we have had 15 years of SD31 being a princess. But I give BD credit for trying. Suddenly, I see BD as a young woman with a good head on her shoulders and a huge heart to take the risk and try again.

Sick and Tired of the BS

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Submitted by joan mary on Mon, 01/27/2014 - 11:16am

So after all the Holiday BS I decided to give myself a month to calm down and let it pass. Things that seem so big and important at the time can (sometimes) be laughed about if I give it a rest. But here I am still unhappy about the sceen that SD31 made at Christmas. After 14 years of marriage to my DH and 14 years of trying to have a good relationship with her I think that I am done. I just don't have the will to pick up the phone and call her. The list of what she has done or not done over the years is huge but it is not the actual behaviors that are what have fried my fuse.