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Is it a guy thing to be unable to hold a conversation with your own child?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 10/01/2019 - 11:39am

Over the years DH has mentioned how hard it is to have a conversation with his dad, like his dad is just waiting to get off the phone, and turns the phone over to DHs mom as soon as he can. DH's dad is sweet and funny but a very, very quiet and soft-spoken man.

Last night DS called to discuss a few things and I wanted to coordinate coming for parents weekend, and we talked for an hour.

The revisionist does it with things this small and this petty

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Mon, 09/30/2019 - 1:40pm

After a previous post about my DH revising history to make it better for himself and the skids, I'm thinking I might have to nickname him The Revisionist.

I realize the next two scenarios are small and petty. No one is upset about them. And we are not playing tit-for-tat. It's just an example of the pervasiveness of his revisionism and denial.

One:

YSS gets up from the table and takes his dishes.

I get up from the table and take my dishes. I rinse my dishes and put them in the dishwasher.

OT - Black Cohosh for hot flashes

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Sat, 09/28/2019 - 5:30pm

Since you've all been so helpful, I'm hoping this is helpful to you.

I whined at my doctor about hot flashes. They were gone and reappeared stronger than ever after a horrible week-long migraine. Also now very "traditional" where they come on if I get upset, exercise, drink alcohol, eat chocolate, etc. And hotter than ever (but unfortunately didn't come with burning off any fat). Sad

Revisionist history

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 09/25/2019 - 11:47am

Some of the recent posts and some personal experiences have me thinking of the phrase "revisionist history." And a little bit "fake news."

Like the proud dads talked about on this site who only remember or focus on the fact their child advanced a grade but not that the child is several years behind in a subject or nearly failing or was suspended several times or...

OT - Hypothetical question on working with exes

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 09/24/2019 - 4:04pm

DH and BM are in the same industry with the same kind of job. XH and I are in the same industry with the same kind of job.

Both BM and XH are looking for new jobs. There are job prospects at DH's company and my company, so DH and BM or me and XH could possibly work together. No idea if BM or XH want to work at them. 

How would you feel if your SO would be working with his/her ex? Not temporarily but full-time at the same company.

Kids in college and split houses—what’s typical?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Sun, 09/22/2019 - 11:29am

My bio and my oldest SS are off at college. DS has been in touch a few times (been gone a month), OSS has not responded to any of DHs texts (been gone two weeks). And for background: OSS barely came over this past summer. 

We have a family locator app and DH and I use it mostly to see if the other one is hoe to let the dog out so we know if we have a window of time to run an errand. I was checking for DHs location this weekend and thought the app was broken. It showed OSS at BMs house. After a refresh it’s correct. 

Who is responsible for a dirty room?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 09/20/2019 - 10:22am

So YSS is half moved in to the other room and OSSs stuff is sitting in boxes ready to be put out once YSS has fully cleaned out of his old room. I asked DH when that would be happening because YSS did minimal cleaning, the vacuum is abandoned in his old room, and his new room is already turning into a sty and there's barely anything in there. I also informed DH I expect it to all get cleaned soon. There are things that were mine from my house that went into their rooms and I am appalled and upset by how ill-used it is and how little care they took of things in their rooms.

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