Hey all. It's been a while since I last posted-but to be honest it's been pretty good.  My SD17 hasn't been here since June.  She still refuses to come over and she hasn't talked to hubby at all.  A text now and again-a reply when hubby tells her he loves her.  It is still up in the air as to if she will graduate this year but she will more than likely graduate-the high school here gives all kids 100chancee to hand 'something' in.

Hubby is 'ok'.  He is mad at the situation.  I had disengaged last year around this time so honestly I'm staying out of the dad/sd17 drama.  I always want to help-but I can't this time.  They need to work this out themselves.  
It's difficult-the balance of the issues.  I'm glad I don't feel like I have to walk in eggshells anymore-but at the same time it weighs on us at times.  To be expected I suppose. Xmas is coming and I'm not getting her anything-simply because she won't come here so what's the point.  Hubby might get her something-he said he will wrap it and put it in her room ..so it can packed with her stuff some day.  BM certainly doesn't help.  She never updates on anything.  I know SDis 17 and can let hubby know instead of BM but this is how's it's been since the kid was like 10...

well-that's all I got for now.  We will see what happens. Hope everyone enjoys the holidays.