I plan on having a bday party for my daughter, however stepson bday also falls in the same month as my daughter. I would like to include his celebration also w/my daughter's. I don't know if I should combine the two because I will not be inviting any of stepson's friends or family on biomom side. It is a bit difficult to deal with if biomom side is included. If I don't include them then I feel bad for stepson. I would only invite my family and a few of daughter's friends. I don't know any of stepson's friends. And I know he would like his mom to be included too.

Just thought I get your opinion on this. Father's day is coming up next month, it looks like stepson will be w/biomom that weekend. I wanted to take my husband w/kids to dinner for Father's day. I also wanted to include stepson to dinner, would you invite biomom to dinner too since stepson is going to be her that weekend? What would you do? I don't have a close relationship w/biomom, I just feel like if I invite her she might end up getting jealous and see that our life is good and what would the conversation be like? I don't know what to talk about with her? Need your input.

Have a good day on Sunday! It's been really nice coming to talk on this website to express our feelings and get the support from each other...You are all wonderful people.

I just realized that when things don't get better, you, "yourself" must have to deal with the ex or stepchild. We can't always rely on our other half (spouse/BF) to the do the talking for us to straighten things out the way we want it to be. We need to stand up for ourselves and tell them straight in their face. I'm sick of having my husband talk to ex or stepson about my concerns, no more middle person. Ultimately the problem that needs to get fixed affects the whole family and YES I'm part of the family so I get to say what I need to say.