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Here's a question...
My step dad is jealous of my relationship with my mother & wants me to go away. Hmm. So, I guess the way I see it, he wants to rob me of my relationship with my mother & is frustrated that he can't. And because he's married to her, he thinks it is his right.
From a step parent's point of view, do you think that is right? I know it's harsh, but this is what it really feels like. Maybe that's the reason his crappy attitude bothers me so much, because usually I am indifferent to people who don't like me.
Feedback would be appreciated.
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No mom
Something hit me about my SF. His mother was in her forties when she had him & she was diagnosed with manic depression back then. It's now known as bipolar disorder. She had mental problems all her life & was even committed & he didn't have much of a relationship with her. For him, she was just this person he was connected to, but she was distant. Not a mom, just a relative he didn't know that well. Now he's in my family with three generations of women who are very close & he just doesn't get it.
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A shame
I peruse through here when I have little to do at work in order to gain some understanding from my step dad's point of view. I came to this site after hearing a guy at work complaining about his grown step children & he sounded just like my step dad... he was annoyed that the SC come over & he wished that they would just go away. I wondered if this just wasn't the normal attitude of step parents.
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Mild vent
Peachy. My mother & I planned on going to the Renaissance Festival tomorrow, just me & her since my step dad has to work. Well, he doesn't want to miss out so he's doing everything he can to go. Now I'm not irritated by this because I want my mother all to myself. I'm irritated because he usually makes me feel like he doesn't want me around. That's what I want, to go to Ren Fest & be treated like a piece of crap... NOT! (Thank God they serve alcohol) He'd better be in a good mood tomorrow, because if he's not & he wants to be a jerk it'll be on like Donkey Kong!
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Kudos!
There is something I need to get off my chest this morning...
To you men, you BF's & SF's who treat the kids as your own, Kudos! You have my respect & my admiration, because in my experience, men like you are all too scarce.
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Adoption... again
To be honest with you, there are more reasons I'm considering dating someone who already has kids. I don't have any by now, & I don't know if I want to get pregnant anymore. I'll be 32 in 2 weeks, & I'm concerned about the health of any children I have & my health as well. I don't regret waiting to have kids, because I know I wasn't mature enough. I had a lot of baggage I had to deal with & things I had to clean up. Now I believe & feel that I am emotionally mature enough to handle kids, but I don't know if my body will be able to recover from it well.
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Baggage
I don't know if this belongs on here today, but it's an issue involving a former step parent & I can't really talk to anyone about it.
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Adoption...
... and that's another drama. When I was 12, my mother told me that my SF wanted to adopt me. She said it was his idea. 10 years later there I was paying to have my name changed because I couldn't afford the adoption fees. He could afford buying tractors, stereo systems, & whatever other equipment he really wanted. But he couldn't afford to adopt me?
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Family
This is coming from a SD point of view... You know what really irritates me about my current SF? The fact that he thought I would just one day go away, disappear, & never return. I am an only child, my mother is an only child, & her mother is an only child. We are all close. Not only that, but as I look to my extended family, distant cousins & what not - I see that they are all close to each other. Heck, my mother's first cousin & her mother do not get along, but they argue everyday! This is just a close knit family... that's the way it is.
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Ex's
I've been reading a lot of posts & it seems that there are a lot of angry ex's that many here are dealing with. I have to admit, I have been the angry ex.
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